DatDude1435
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Got this one last week, and didn't have a good response. Any ideas?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How to respond to "you only pretend to care about me" SH@T Test?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
PrettyBoyAJ
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TheException
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"Ya but I pretend pretty good...Ive been practicing since I was 4."
Maximus Rex
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Really?
Give a good hearty "Batman," laugh, http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_kuvckhEAHg1qzgcpyo1_500.jpg call her a foolish mortal, kiss her on the forehead and proceed as normal. Everything doesn't require an answer, this instance is one of those times.
Give a good hearty "Batman," laugh, http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_kuvckhEAHg1qzgcpyo1_500.jpg call her a foolish mortal, kiss her on the forehead and proceed as normal. Everything doesn't require an answer, this instance is one of those times.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
PlayHer Man
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The only possible "wrong response" is any type of submission or defensiveness on your part. She wants you to get defensive because that would mean you're insecure.
My response would depend on my mood and my overall opinion of her. I'd probably say something like: "Yeah? That's what you believe? Interesting."
Generally women do things like this when they believe they lack leverage in the relationship. Its a sign the relationship is (in her mind) mostly on YOUR TERMS (as is should be
). Usually they do it at a time when they believe you're unprepared (have weak frame).
If you don't want to have an argument or fight.. don't defend yourself or tell her she is wrong. Just let her ramble. Relax and watch the show, but don't participate in this childishness.
My response would depend on my mood and my overall opinion of her. I'd probably say something like: "Yeah? That's what you believe? Interesting."
Generally women do things like this when they believe they lack leverage in the relationship. Its a sign the relationship is (in her mind) mostly on YOUR TERMS (as is should be
). Usually they do it at a time when they believe you're unprepared (have weak frame). If you don't want to have an argument or fight.. don't defend yourself or tell her she is wrong. Just let her ramble. Relax and watch the show, but don't participate in this childishness.
As Playher man says, the most important thing here is not to get defensive.
I would suggest next time you get hit with a **** test that accuses you of being a certain way, you ask her "what do you mean?". This works in many situations, not just with girls. It shows that you're interested in what they have to say. This will also help you see if it was a real concern she has or just a **** test.
If after asking her this you can tell that it is a real **** test you should respond with something along the lines of what TheException said, or anything else that makes fun of her comment.
I would suggest next time you get hit with a **** test that accuses you of being a certain way, you ask her "what do you mean?". This works in many situations, not just with girls. It shows that you're interested in what they have to say. This will also help you see if it was a real concern she has or just a **** test.
If after asking her this you can tell that it is a real **** test you should respond with something along the lines of what TheException said, or anything else that makes fun of her comment.
usernamedox11
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I never understood you guys being obsessed with "shyt tests." Whenever a girl would ask me something ridiculous, I'd just tell her to stop nagging like a baby. It's always been my natural reaction, even when I was a teen. Never would think twice about it.
Response is "OK".DatDude1435 said:
Anything defensive or rational will cause you more issues. You got to be focused on what you want to do and she's trying to distract you with some emotional bs. Don't get sucked in or caught up. Focus, focus, focus.
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And then unless she is severely whipped she dumps you but hey at least you went out in style