how to respond to her test?

[mojo16]

i am meant to be going out with a girl tonight,
she texted me today and said the following:

hey i forgot whether im seeing you today or not? im feeling kind of ****
right now so if we're doing something ill just sleep and hopefully wake up feeling better. let me know!


I have no idea how to respond to this, since we organised to see each other about 10 days ago, she might just be checking to see if im still keen, OR she might be testing me or attempting to flake?

what should my reply be?

 

[ARrocket]

Or, she could actually be sick! No way to know. So:

I'd probably just say something along the lines of "we'll just reschedule for another day...you need your full strength to truly soak in the (insert name here) experience "

Puts you back in control.

 

[betheman]

Low IL, she isnt really intersted, women DONT forget.

has there been no commmunication between you two in ten days?

 

[PapiChulo]

b!tch slap her and throw her ass to the curb

 

[runner83]

10 days ago?

The average girl can't even plan ahead more than 2 days.

She is just checking up, IMO.

Don't fly off the handle just yet - go ahead with it and remember the 2 strikes rule:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=154043

If she does 2 strikes, then lose her.

 

[betheman]

10 days ago?

The average girl can't even plan ahead more than 2 days.

when it comes to romance, women can and do plan things with a military precision the third reich would be impressed with!
She will have vetted you, told her friends about you, gauged their opinion but forget a date??? no way..unless somethign better came along in the meantime or you failed the vetting process

 

[Hakuna]

agreed w/ the IL isn't high enough. Don't know if I would set-up dates for 10 days later, gives too much time for interest level to drop especially if you're texting her with smileys in between.

It's a numbers game, cut your losses and move on. If you over-game, you'll lose too much attraction from coming off as desperate.

 

[ARrocket]

when it comes to romance, women can and do plan things with a military precision the third reich would be impressed with!
She will have vetted you, told her friends about you, gauged their opinion but forget a date??? no way..unless somethign better came along in the meantime or you failed the vetting process

Yeah if they're like 35...seriously, 10 days is a long time ago, AND, she didn't really forget about him, she did after all text him. Yes, it could be low IL and it could be that she was trying to find a good avenue to flakedom, but nexting her that early is dumb.

If the OP is living life the way he should be, he is not emotionally attached to this girl at this stage, because he has other options. So, no matter what her deal is, he can easily play this one out. Wait a few days/a week, whatever, and then try again. Giving up on a girl so quick whom the OP actually doesn't really know anything about is silly.

runner83 is correct; if it becomes a pattern, forget her. But she hasn't really done anything wrong yet. Gotta swing to score!

 

[betheman]

she knows damn well she is supposed to be going out with him tonight...if her IL is good!
The 10 days bugs me, whats that all about? are they texting or writing to each other?

 

[st_99]

10 days ago?

The average girl can't even plan ahead more than 2 days.

She is just checking up, IMO.

Don't fly off the handle just yet - go ahead with it and remember the 2 strikes rule:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=154043

If she does 2 strikes, then lose her.

I would go with this also, after 10 days i'd actually be surprised if some
chick even got back to me. She probably just doesn't want to seem like
she's been sitting there thinking about you for 10 days straight.

Just a guess but i wouldn't get bent about that at all.

 

[f283000]

Remember the Brad Pitt analogy it always holds true.

If she was going out with Brad Pitt instead of you do you think she would be texting him saying that she can't remember whether she is going out with him today or not?

Do you think she would even mention being sick? She would have taken all the nyquil in the world to be ready for Brad Pitt!

Don't let this girl fool you because she is full of sh**t. Do you really think she forgot she was going out with you today? She and her whole entourage of annoying girlfriends have probably been talking about her upcoming date for days now! Are you really this naive? She probably has a 100 texts on her cell just regarding the date.

Anytime a woman has a date word gets around to her clique. It's almost impossible for her to have forgotten. She is just full of sh**t and playing with your mind.

 

[PapiChulo]

The man has said it. Dont be naive mates.