How to rekindle the intimacy

[DJNiceGuy]

So when my gf and I first started dating, we had ridiculous porn star sex. 5 times in one night, all sorts of positions. Now for some reason, about 5 months later, I can only have sex once, and then I go limp. And I can usually only do missionary. When I try from behind, I again go limp. I'm a little confused here. My friend assures me that this is now a more normal routine (sex 3-4 times a week, and only once in a night).

This girl is everything I look for physically, I think she's one of the hottest girls I ever seen and our relationship is going great aside from minor problems here there.

Does anyone have advice for this sort of thing? I'm pretty annoyed at my own performance here. We've even tried watching porn during sex, and that still doesn't help me.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear DJ,
Seems pretty normal,at your age you should be enjoying svx every time the opportunity presents itself,that is unless you have been stupid enough to move in with her.But I question the wisdom of getting too tied up with one Lady at 26,you should be out there trying the bread from every oven.Try getting away for a cruise or some other holiday that presents svexual opportunity,maybe Phuket in Thailand,you will have a great time and paradoxically for a few weeks on your return,she will seem more appealing than ever...We have never discussed the proposition that a Mans sexuality is very much controlled by the horniness of the Woman he is with.

 

[DJNiceGuy]

Thanks fellas. I completely agree. I'm gonna definitely start limiting the amount of time we spend together and try to get a few more activities started up.

samspage, my leadership definitely has slipped a bit because the majority of what we do is dictated by her. The problem is that a lot of my pre-relationship acitvities were geared toward meeting girls. This includes the friends I used to hangout with. Now that I'm not gaming, I'm not quite sure which of my own activities to suggest.

scaramouche, thats interesting about how men's sexuality is controlled by the horniess of the women. For a time she thought I was waaay too horny, and that we were doing it too much. She called me a little kid and sex addict at one point. And asked me if all I cared about in the relationship was sex? I really tried to tone it down after that. Now I'm almost wondering if this all got into my head, causing my current predicament. Thoughts?

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear DJ,
Sorry mate but from long experiences this girl is far closer to the Norm in her Svxual appetite than you who with most of the SS guys is perhaps a tad hornier than the average....sexual tension will improve things for a while,but there is NO long term cure,eventually they all norm,and eventually in a show of defiance one day she will rebel...Doesn't mean she isn't LTR material if she can wean you off the Svx,your choice.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

This is pretty basic, but are you drinking before you get after it? Do you smoke? Are you getting regular exercise and enough sleep? Think about anything that has changed in regards to your physical conditions.

 

[mrRuckus]

Why would you even want to do it more than once in a night? Sounds like a bore and a chore.

I just want a nap after the first time. It just seems foreign to me that even if i could go again that i would want to. Maybe a few hours later, but a few minutes? Nahhhh. Even when i was like 20 i didn't want to. I want her to get away from me and her being naked at this point instead of exciting is now "women look funny naked" and noticing her flaws. But that's great if you like sex after sex after sex, but i only want to pop once so even if it goes a few hours i just hold off.

I am wondering about my testosterone levels though and will be starting a natural test raising protocol soon as well as ridding myself of excess estrogens (of which beer is one of the worst offenders because of the high amounts phytoestrogens in hops)

 

[DJNiceGuy]

Rollo, nothing has changed physically, but thanks for the thought.

I just discovered the book Sex God Method by Daniel Rose. I read it today and I really believe it'll help. It talks about Dominance and how the most important aspect of sex is the Psycological.