"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

How to reject a girl in your circle

dmvdav

Don Juan
Joined
May 26, 2013
Messages
70
Reaction score
1
Pretty much what the title says.

I have a few "circles" of friends, and i try not to mix them together. One circle has the guys i grew up with and like hanging out with. The rest are pretty much just for getting girls. not sure if that's messed up, but whatever. My guy friends aren't even close to "red pill aware" or whatever you want to call it. It's rare for a girl to show up in that group unless she's dating one of us.

A close friends's GF has been bringing her friend around, mostly so she could meet me. Obviously that's awesome, except i'm not attracted to this girl...

She's been getting more and more aggressive in flirting with me, and I know soon it's going to turn into her straight up asking me, or trying to make out with me.

I've "rejected" girls in the past with "im not looking for a relationship" and similar excuses, but i'm wondering how you'd handle it when your close friends are involved.

basically i want to avoid getting on these girl's bad side in case a girl i like comes along.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

TheException

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 17, 2013
Messages
1,109
Reaction score
111
I know soon it's going to turn into her straight up asking me, or trying to make out with me.

Dont think about "what if's". Your seeing the true nature of game and how counter-intuitive it is. The more you ignore her/dont reciprocate...the more attracted she becomes to you.

i'm wondering how you'd handle it

Keep doing what your doing. When the time comes a simple "Your not my type" works.
 

PlayHer Man

Banned
Joined
Dec 22, 2012
Messages
1,695
Reaction score
190
Location
East Coast USA
This is an imaginary "problem". I've had many girls come onto me over the years whom I've had no interest in.

Take some time to think about how a woman in your "circle" who had no sexual interest in you would react if you came onto her. Think about how unapologetic she would be over her lack of interest. At best should would exploit your interest in her or "friend zone" you. At worst she would be a b!tch about it or avoid you.

So what should you do? --> NOTHING.

A man doesn't have to explain himself when it comes to attraction or a lack thereof. If you must say something.. say: "I can't". If she asks why, say: "I just can't". Then change the subject. :up:

No explanation is necessary.
 

Trump

Banned
Joined
Mar 12, 2011
Messages
3,000
Reaction score
1,669
dmvdav said:
Pretty much what the title says.

I have a few "circles" of friends, and i try not to mix them together. One circle has the guys i grew up with and like hanging out with. The rest are pretty much just for getting girls. not sure if that's messed up, but whatever. My guy friends aren't even close to "red pill aware" or whatever you want to call it. It's rare for a girl to show up in that group unless she's dating one of us.

A close friends's GF has been bringing her friend around, mostly so she could meet me. Obviously that's awesome, except i'm not attracted to this girl...

She's been getting more and more aggressive in flirting with me, and I know soon it's going to turn into her straight up asking me, or trying to make out with me.

I've "rejected" girls in the past with "im not looking for a relationship" and similar excuses, but i'm wondering how you'd handle it when your close friends are involved.

basically i want to avoid getting on these girl's bad side in case a girl i like comes along.
As said above, you are worried about what to say to a girl who you don't like on the off chance her friend may bring a girl you do like around to date? Low odds.

If push comes to shove, just say "you are a very sweet sweet girl, but not my type."
 

dmvdav

Don Juan
Joined
May 26, 2013
Messages
70
Reaction score
1
Do what women do. Pre-emptively call her a friend.

ha i feel that.

thanks for the advice guys. i'm thinking about it too much.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Top