How to recover after an AFC slip up.

[madeanafcmove]

Straight to the point, I dorked up a golden opportunity to hook up with a girl I really like by telling her I really liked her and wanted to date. The next day she backed off when I tried to redeem myself. I know exactly where I screwed up and what I should have said. My question revolves around what to do now. We work together in a bar, and some shifts it is just her and I. I believe my move here is do nothing/say nothing and hope her interest develops again and she doesnt find a BF in the mean time. However, if anyone has any suggestions id like to hear them.

 

[origin138]

The recovery rate for this sort of situation is very low. If it were me? Let it go immediately and don't try to cover your a$$ again. You messed up, it happens, move forward with other women.

The general rule is that you shouldn't push for plates in the workplace. However, working in a bar, I can see an exception here. When I bartended and waited tables, I slept with several coworkers and a few customers and never had anything come of it. In the corporate/professional world, that kind of thing WILL come back to haunt you, so best to avoid it.

Back to your mistake, just let it go, and for the love of God do NOT try to justify anything to her, ever. Let her come to you. If there is interest she'll make is brutally honest and it will happen naturally. If you keep talking to her about this, or make any covert efforts to cover your mistakes, she'll smell it and the second situation will be worse than the first. You may as well walk around with your c0ck tucked under because that's how she'll see you.

From this point on, she gets nothing more than a "hello" and any work-related conversation. That's it.

Also, use the search function up top. There are plenty of threads about this sort of thing.

 

[JBB84]

I did this same exact thing not that long ago. Sucks soo much. Things were going great, hooked up a few times, and I got drunk at dinner and told the girl I really liked her after hooking up. She completely back off, started acting weird, etc. I did the only recovery I could - which was to back off myself. At some point of not talking for a few days she wrote me a long pity text letting me know she wasn't looking for anything serious. I responded that it was fine and I was pretty tipsy so I hope I didn't make it seem like I was trying to jump into something. We didn't talk to two weeks, I was pretty miserable about this rookie mistake that I made. Then she contacted me, we started talking again, hung out (she asked), the date went great, I did not get weird/serious on her at all - and she started acting distant again after. So who knows. Don't pick apart everything you do and say. When you really like someone, you hardly give a shyt what they say. Keep working on your looks and you financial success, the girls will keep coming.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Here's how.

That's like a catch all to everything.

Oneitus - spin plates
Fvcked some $hit up - spin plates
Wifes's cheating on me - spin plates
Can't get laid - spin plates

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

I know, I'm lazy.

Just trying to make a joke. That was a nice picture though.

 

[SecondHalf]

Let that one go.

However, be good with the other women who frequent that bar where she can see it, then befriend her, then ... boink her friends.

SH

 

[VladPatton]

Act like you never said it!

Done and done.