"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm unsure how I should treat this girl.

She added me on myspace, with a message stating she couldn't help but laugh when reading my profile and so forth.

So I message her back with a simple little acknowledgment, message lead to message and we both sort of seemed to click. She gave me her number without me asking, I gave her mine. She wanted to "text" while she was at work and doing her daily things. I don't have texting on my cell so that portion didn't take place.

Then she asked for my msn, for a more head on way of talking.

So I told her we should do coffee sometime, she quickly jumped on that idea. Than the next night we were talking and she mentioned she liked movies, and I asked her about meeting people from myspace, she said she did it twice and both of the guy's where very weird and creeped her out.

I played it off like those guy's where just super nervous chumps, and made it appear like I was alpha male and she would have a good time with me and so on. So that lead to her really wanting to meet up with me, she said we should go see a movie, and that we could hangout for the day.

Here's the killer.
I don't drive, and I live in a trailer. Now she did mention sometime in our conversation's, that money is not something she looks for in a guy.

Anyhow, we set up plans for the next day to hangout....come about 2 oclock when she was supposed to call me she called at like 2:20ish. Saying she was running errands with her mother, and that it would have to wait till about 4 oclock instead of the planned 2 oclock. So about 4:30 roll's around she gives me a call again and said she is able to leave and go do as she pleases, so I give her directions best I could.....keep in mind she actually lives a good 45 minutes away from me. She didn't want to take the freeway cuz it was rainy so she called me every 20 mins or so giving me an update on where she was, she had never been in my kneck of the woods and needed specific help with where to go. So I was doing the best I could, and I get a call and she says she has bad news....she decided to turn around because she had been driving for over an hour and still did not have any sign of the street she needed to reach.

I guess I sounded upset on the phone, she asked what was wrong and I told her I was just a little disappointed. So the second she got home she shoot's me an email asking if I was mad at her....I didn't respond to it quickly so she sent another one repeating what she previously said.

I told her I just felt bad she wasted a tank of gas and didnt even get to meet me, she said she really wants to meet me and she is going to give it another shot on a better day with a printout of exact directions.


Should I keep on trying with this girl? No she isn't the only one I got goin, but she does seem pretty cool.

I think im acting appropriately

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yeah sure.

She sounds cool and her interest level is clearly high.

It only makes sense.
 

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Sounds like she's worth the effort. Don't give up on her yet.

I can't help but ask, why would it being rainy make a difference in taking the highway or not?

Also, you guys should have gotten online and done google maps or something for directions. No need for all the ambiguous "You know that McDonald's over by the bank? Yea, turn right there." stuff.

I don't know everything you said, obviously, but if you didn't sound too bothered by the facts that she moved the meeting time 2 hours later, and then decided to screw it and go home, then you should be fine.
 

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Ace of Flames said:
Sounds like she's worth the effort. Don't give up on her yet.

I can't help but ask, why would it being rainy make a difference in taking the highway or not?

Also, you guys should have gotten online and done google maps or something for directions. No need for all the ambiguous "You know that McDonald's over by the bank? Yea, turn right there." stuff.

I don't know everything you said, obviously, but if you didn't sound too bothered by the facts that she moved the meeting time 2 hours later, and then decided to screw it and go home, then you should be fine.
She said she doesnt like taking the freeway, that and the fact that it was raining added to her "fear" of the freeway. So taking main roads all the way here instead of the freeway probably made it seem like a much longer drive than it was supposed to be. I think its reasonable, the fact that she was so quick to just get out and meet me is a good thing.


She also said she was extremely nervous, because she never meet me and that her nerves got the best of her, I guess it was a combination of the fear of the unknown and getting lost. I dunno, maybe im just thinking too positively ? haha
 

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But... but the highway is probably the safest place you can drive...

And if it was raining, then all the lower roads would be more likely to flood or whatever than the highway.

Whatever. Girls are crazy that way. ^_^
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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