How to react when she screams at you

[Suspens]

She was going to a family birth day party, and one day before the party I asked her to take pictures and bring a piece of cake for me (Yes I was suspicious). Then she gets defensive and tells me in a loud tone "THAT'S NOT POSSIBLE, I WIIL BRING YOU THE PHOTOS".


I said "ok, stop screaming It's not good for your sanity and nervous system. I was kidding with you."


15 minutes later, I felt so butthurt that I had to stop the car and tell her in a serious tone that "only little 2 year olds scream like that, you don't 't talk that loud again."

She tried to kiss me but I held her face back and asked her If she understood what I told her.

What would be the best reaction?

 

[TheCleanPleb]

Women are very emotional beings, sometimes they can't help but get overly upset at something small or "stupid". You always have to have control of the situation if a female is mad at you, meaning, you should remain calm, don't yell back at her and let her get it out. Calmly inform her that you refuse to discuss the situation if she doesn't act like a civilized adult. If she continues to b*tch, don't be afraid to remove yourself from the situation, and bring it up at a later date.

Sounds like she needs to be checked though, make sure she KNOWS that if she acts up, you have no problem leaving her and hitting up "susie may" from Yoga.

 

[Frogster]

Early in our relationship, I left my wife standing on the curb.

It's been over 20 years, and she's never done that again.

She's yelled, but she never disrespected me again.

 

[SmooveMooves]

I usually respond with "Who are you talking to that way?" and sure enough the backpedaling and explaining begins. That works for me because I keep a massive dominant frame. You are a woman's leader and provider, disrespect in the form of yelling never be tolerated.

 

[Atom Smasher]

What nobody seems to be addressing is the fact that her claiming to go to a family part was "suspicious".

Why were you suspicious, OP?

 

[JohnChops]

What nobody seems to be addressing is the fact that her claiming to go to a family part was "suspicious".

Why were you suspicious, OP?

i was thinking this exact thing. did people overlook that he wanted a fvcking picture of her with the cake as proof? are you insecure about your relationship at this point?

 

[alpha_as_h311]

I said "ok, stop screaming It's not good for your sanity and nervous system. I was kidding with you."

I Lol'd :crackup: How old is she?

 

[devilkingx2]

personally being screamed at usually leaves me in a rage(i really, really hate it.)

but your reaction(if you insisted on showing your feelings) should've been a little more immediate because the delay makes it seem like it deepy affected you(AKA sort of makes you seem like a b****)

EDIT:

Atom Smasher is right, this seems like something a little important that we all glossed over:

She was going to a family birth day party, and one day before the party I asked her to take pictures and bring a piece of cake for me (Yes I was suspicious).

uhm... wanna explain this part OP?

 

[El Payaso]

Do what Robert Gibbs did to that crazy reporter lady at a White House press conference a few years ago.

Robert Gibbs: Woman, woman, calm down. Just take a deep breath for one sec. Now see, this happens with my son. He does the same thing.

 

[rascal99v]

She was going to a family birth day party, and one day before the party I asked her to take pictures and bring a piece of cake for me (Yes I was suspicious). Then she gets defensive and tells me in a loud tone "THAT'S NOT POSSIBLE, I WIIL BRING YOU THE PHOTOS".


I said "ok, stop screaming It's not good for your sanity and nervous system. I was kidding with you."


15 minutes later, I felt so butthurt that I had to stop the car and tell her in a serious tone that "only little 2 year olds scream like that, you don't 't talk that loud again."

She tried to kiss me but I held her face back and asked her If she understood what I told her.

What would be the best reaction?

Bring you some cake? :crackup: What do you expect her reaction to be? You are basically demanding her to show you evidence. Do you think she is going to just sit there like a robot and answer your demands? :crackup:

of course she is going to get upset. Women are emotional. And you are showing yourself to be really insecure. Chicks who get accused will shout. Chicks who are hiding something and are accused will yell too.

Don't accuse them. That doesn't work. You should have just casually brought up later how the party was. And then say what cool pics did you take. If there are none, then you know something is up. Chicks always take pics. Then take the proper actions necsssary if she turns out to be lying. Why are you suspicious of her?

Be casual and cool. Don't look like an insecure fool.

 

[Don_Dom]

What nobody seems to be addressing is the fact that her claiming to go to a family part was "suspicious".

Why were you suspicious, OP?

Bingo.

If you question them about something innocuous and they go bananas over it your antennae should go up. "Why does she want me on a defensive footing right now?" is what you should ask yourself when this happens. Especially when aunt flo isn't in town.

Plus, you said yourself that you were kind of suspicious. As atom asked, why?

We guys tend to overlook obvious signals of something being up because it's not attractive to be Mr paranoid jealous guy and we like to live in ignorant bliss where the subject of being cheated on is concerned. But you were suspicious for a reason. That plus her blowing up on you is no bueno.

It could be nothing. It could be she fvcked a basketball team. Either way it warrants a closer look.

 

[Suspens]

She was a pathological liar, caught her a few times.

Yeah, the fact that I kept discussing about her loud tone made her realize it was effective, and that she could hurt my feelings by screaming again. Lesson learned, thanks guys.

Another lesson, don't express any feeling that suggest you are jealous or you don't trust her. Keep silent, and when you are sure she is being dishonest and up to something, go ghost. No need to announce "I'm breaking up with you for this reason and that reason", a cheating hoe does not deserve any kind of explanation. Let her mourn for the rest of her life.


I made so many mistake with her, and I'm trying to analyze them and learn from them. Thanks guys.

 

[Johnny Alias]

Lies are the signs of a personality disordered individual. Truly. Even if she's lying to other people and not you. If she cheated on someone to get with you or is lying about this and that these are MAJOR red flags. If she can't put herself in your shoes and understand why you would be suspicious after she LIED to you that says no empathy and is another red flag.

The fact that she screamed at you is yet another red flag.

Sorry man. This looks bad from my perspective. This is only the stuff you've told us too. If she talks in a baby voice sometimes, is a train wreck with jobs, finances, and friendships, and is a substance abuser, alcoholic or otherwise, or flies into rages more often than not you need to take a step back.

Seriously. Look up cluster bs.