Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How to react to this situation?

Firefly

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Went on a second "date" with a 22 year old. We met up on-line the first time, and she seemed to be very keen to hang out again, especially since she is new in town and does not know many people.

Second date seemed to go well. We had a fun time, and I went for the kiss close half way through. She reciprocated and we wandered around for another 1-2 hours holding hands. However, when I went for the kiss again later in the evening, she stopped and said it was too public. She also seemed to be in a hurry to get her bus home (although this may have been simply a desire not to miss the bus as the next one was an hour away).

I sent her a text yesterday asking if she wanted to meet up on the weekend, and received no response so I had a quick look at her facebook. I noticed that the day after our date, she put up a status saying "will soon have had enough of the strange people here." and soon after I sent her the text, she put up another status saying "there are enough over-depressing and over-attention seeking people around me". There is always the chance she is referring to others, but it seems unlikely. :)

So how should I respond? I am thinking the best way is to just next her and move on (not too hard as I have a few other plates in play) but I was wondering if I should mention the FB stuff? I am thinking no, as it would show I am concerned about her opinion of me but I am open to other viewpoints.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Slickster

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Remember the Seinfeld episode where George is dating the girl who is hard of hearing in one ear? He tells her "I love you" but she doesn't respond. Then he finds out she's partially deaf so he tells her again thinking she didn't hear it originally. So he tells her again and she says "I know, I heard you the first time."

That's exactly how you are going to feel if make comment about her facebook.

You've shown that you are interested. She's demonstrated that she isn't.

Let it go man.
 

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she doesn't like you. not much to discuss. you tried. next. Don't take it so personally.
you know what. im not freaking done. That was creppy what you did. Kisses, holding handds, is **** that should just happen, it should be signs of affection, it should just happen.. Instead, I am sick and ****ing tired, of men using "kiss" and "hand holding" as "okay yes she likes me" signs which is verbatium what you did. you used the kiss, as a way to see if she was having a godo time. A kiss should be something that just happens. you ucking blew it. if you were a girl, a 22 year old I presume hottie, why would you want to date someone that comes off that desperate?]


they just freaking happen when they happen. My fiancee, I was feeling it and we were kissing within 15 mintues of our first date. My first grown up, LTR, i didn't kiss her until the end of my 2nd date. hell when I was 23, I dated a girl, that mind you was head over heels for me, that we did not kiss for 3 weeks i bull **** you not and that girl was crazy about me. Do not use kisses as indicators of intrest. Use her actions. Presume if she is on a date, she likes you. Act as if.
 
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