"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How to react to this situation?

Firefly

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Went on a second "date" with a 22 year old. We met up on-line the first time, and she seemed to be very keen to hang out again, especially since she is new in town and does not know many people.

Second date seemed to go well. We had a fun time, and I went for the kiss close half way through. She reciprocated and we wandered around for another 1-2 hours holding hands. However, when I went for the kiss again later in the evening, she stopped and said it was too public. She also seemed to be in a hurry to get her bus home (although this may have been simply a desire not to miss the bus as the next one was an hour away).

I sent her a text yesterday asking if she wanted to meet up on the weekend, and received no response so I had a quick look at her facebook. I noticed that the day after our date, she put up a status saying "will soon have had enough of the strange people here." and soon after I sent her the text, she put up another status saying "there are enough over-depressing and over-attention seeking people around me". There is always the chance she is referring to others, but it seems unlikely. :)

So how should I respond? I am thinking the best way is to just next her and move on (not too hard as I have a few other plates in play) but I was wondering if I should mention the FB stuff? I am thinking no, as it would show I am concerned about her opinion of me but I am open to other viewpoints.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Slickster

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Remember the Seinfeld episode where George is dating the girl who is hard of hearing in one ear? He tells her "I love you" but she doesn't respond. Then he finds out she's partially deaf so he tells her again thinking she didn't hear it originally. So he tells her again and she says "I know, I heard you the first time."

That's exactly how you are going to feel if make comment about her facebook.

You've shown that you are interested. She's demonstrated that she isn't.

Let it go man.
 

backbreaker

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she doesn't like you. not much to discuss. you tried. next. Don't take it so personally.
you know what. im not freaking done. That was creppy what you did. Kisses, holding handds, is **** that should just happen, it should be signs of affection, it should just happen.. Instead, I am sick and ****ing tired, of men using "kiss" and "hand holding" as "okay yes she likes me" signs which is verbatium what you did. you used the kiss, as a way to see if she was having a godo time. A kiss should be something that just happens. you ucking blew it. if you were a girl, a 22 year old I presume hottie, why would you want to date someone that comes off that desperate?]


they just freaking happen when they happen. My fiancee, I was feeling it and we were kissing within 15 mintues of our first date. My first grown up, LTR, i didn't kiss her until the end of my 2nd date. hell when I was 23, I dated a girl, that mind you was head over heels for me, that we did not kiss for 3 weeks i bull **** you not and that girl was crazy about me. Do not use kisses as indicators of intrest. Use her actions. Presume if she is on a date, she likes you. Act as if.
 
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