"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How to react to guys flirting with your girl?

Cherokee

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Basically how would you handle the situation without looking like a jerk?
Just brush it off? or put your foot down? maybe somewhere in the middle?

To relate it to me, I've spoken to my girl about it and she says she hasn't noticed, so obviously its with this dude that the issue lays.

The other thing is, girls like us guys love gettin attention, so is it wise to destroy such attention?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Juice09

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If someones hitting on her without directly approaching her, like from a moving car or from across the street, I play it off by pretending they were hitting on ME and act like I'm annoyed that I'm constantly hit on every day. It's hilarious and it deals with the situation. If you get mad about it, it looks like you're afraid of losing her to some random loser.
 

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I posted a question about this under The Archive "I have a boyfriend". How to react on both sides in close quarters...
 

DonJuan11

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Cherokee said:
I've spoken to my girl about it and she says she hasn't noticed, so obviously its with this dude that the issue lays.
Obviously your gf is smarter than you. Of course she is going to say she hasn't noticed anything. It's no skin off her back the guy is flirting with her - her ego gets boosted, she feels good about herself and always knows there is a second option available in case she stops having sex with you.

The issue lies with your girl, not with the guy. Do you think he would continue to flirt with her is she shut him right down? Do you think he would continue to flirt with her is she told him "I apologize, but I have steady boyfriend and really feel its inappropriate we continue like this" Do you think he would continue to flirt with her if she was cold, told him off, or said she would call the Police is he continues his inappropriate ways? Of course not. She loves it and will continue it as long as she can milk it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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