Was supposed to go out with a girl wednesday night (2nd date, 1st date was like a month ago and I didn't make any moves, been waiting for the 2nd date to make a move). She calls to say she's tired apologetically and that we should do something this weekend (sounding sincere), so I said something like let's *definitely* go out saturday. She agreed. I was gonna email her friday and decisively tell her when I was going to pick her up, where we were going to go, and what we were going to do. But, I decided to leave the ball fully in her court and cut off contact and wait until SHE calls, as she has already flaked a couple times in the last month when we made plans to go out.
I figured if I don't hear from her by 6, I will take up my friends offer to tag along to a party.
It's about 6:10
So, she definitely doesn't have a high enough IL to want to hook up tonight and initiate a call on her own, but I think it would be strange if I don't hear back from her at some point since up until now she's been pretty good at returning calls/calling me in the last month or so. (I speculate that she sees me more as a friend and doesn't want to put herself in the position of me making a move on her.)
Maybe the damage has already been done and I've ****ed up my chances of getting in to her sweet panties (I've been kinda trying to play it cool and not come on too strong), BUT how do I react when/if she calls?
My gut, frustrated reaction is to be like "I can take a hint, if you don't want to hook up, I'l stop bothering you"
But I know that would be unwise and detrimental to the chances of ever getting in to her sweet vagina.
So I want to sound positive/confident like I don't care about it, but at the same time I don't want to send her the signal like "sure, I don't care if you blow me off/I'm here waiting for you like a pathetic doormat!"
Where is the healthy middle ground between reacting negatively and coming off like a soft AFC that will keep coming back after broken dates and blow offs? And/or how do people recommend playing this out?
I figured if I don't hear from her by 6, I will take up my friends offer to tag along to a party.
It's about 6:10
So, she definitely doesn't have a high enough IL to want to hook up tonight and initiate a call on her own, but I think it would be strange if I don't hear back from her at some point since up until now she's been pretty good at returning calls/calling me in the last month or so. (I speculate that she sees me more as a friend and doesn't want to put herself in the position of me making a move on her.)
Maybe the damage has already been done and I've ****ed up my chances of getting in to her sweet panties (I've been kinda trying to play it cool and not come on too strong), BUT how do I react when/if she calls?
My gut, frustrated reaction is to be like "I can take a hint, if you don't want to hook up, I'l stop bothering you"
But I know that would be unwise and detrimental to the chances of ever getting in to her sweet vagina.
So I want to sound positive/confident like I don't care about it, but at the same time I don't want to send her the signal like "sure, I don't care if you blow me off/I'm here waiting for you like a pathetic doormat!"
Where is the healthy middle ground between reacting negatively and coming off like a soft AFC that will keep coming back after broken dates and blow offs? And/or how do people recommend playing this out?
