"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How To Re-initiate Interest?

ShiftyShaun

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I met a girl 6 months ago and was emailing her back and forth. She's an HB 9 and soon lost interest and stopped replying. i saw her a couple of months later and ignored her straight. She started emailing me again saying it had been "a busy few months". Once again she started losing interest once she knew i was interested.

So, how could you go about re-initiating interest? A few guys i know were talking about how hot she was the other day so ofcourse that makes me wanna get in there. How can i get talking to her again via email (don't have her number and don't see her) without seeming desperate?

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ShiftyShaun said:
I met a girl 6 months ago and was emailing her back and forth.
So what was the point of you two sending emails back and forth?

I take it this girl is someone you'd like to date. If that's true,then...umm...did you ever ask her out? That is what you want,isn't it? Or are you content just playing "email tag" with her?


ShiftyShaun said:
She's an HB 9 and soon lost interest and stopped replying.
She lost interest? Well can you blame her?

It's been 6 months,how long was she supposed to wait for you to ask her out? You say she's an HB9. Then no doubt other guys have shown her interest in that 6 month period.


I mean seriously,you don't expect a "9" to ask you out,do you?


ShiftyShaun said:
i saw her a couple of months later and ignored her straight.
Why did you ignore her? How was that suppose to get her to go out with you?


ShiftyShaun said:
She started emailing me again saying it had been "a busy few months".
And of course that was a lie,but I think you already know that.



ShiftyShaun said:
Once again she started losing interest once she knew i was interested.
No she didn't. She didn't lose interest upon finding out that you were interested in her. This girl is being an AW/attention wh0re.

She didn't lose interest when you showed your interest to her again,what happened was she got her attention "fix".


The problem here is you're not showing your interest to her properly.

You're not doing it in a manly,masculine way. But even though you're not doing it right,it's still attention nonetheless.



You ignored her,she missed the attention she was getting from you,then she started emailing you again,but NOT BECAUSE SHE LIKED YOU,but because she missed the attention. Then once she got her next "fix" from you,she backed off again. she's good now....until the next craving arises.


It's not showing a girl you like her that makes her lose interest,it's showing her you like her in a WEAK manner.


You've known her 6 months which is PLENTY OF TIME to ask her out.

So why haven't you yet? Afraid of rejection?


If you want to date her,you need to stop playing "footsies" over the internet and ASK HER OUT....PERIOD.

ShiftyShaun said:
How can i get talking to her again via email (don't have her number and don't see her) without seeming desperate?

Why do you not have her number? You talk with her online,see her in person from time to time,have known her for 6 months,so what's the deal?



Let's use some common sense here:Why you don't have her number,I do not know,but if she isn't willing to give you her number,then what makes you think she'll go out with you?



This may be salvageable,but you'll need to do a complete 180 on how you interact with her. Right now she's in AW mode,but that can be turned around.


It just depends on the history you two have with each other.
 

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Yup you need to do alot of MANLY work at first. Until you hit it, making her chase you ain't gonna work. You have to do all the leg work at first but you have to chase her the RIGHT WAY meaning be a man and show her some interest.
 
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