"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to re-engage previous dates/"friends"?

CaliMan007

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I was dating a girl for a couple months and it ended recently.

I fully agree that I need to start spinning plates, lots of them. I'm involved in a lot of activities and will make a concerted effort engaging with new women.

However, I also plan on trying to pull girls from the complete arsenal, not just new girls but girls I've known in the past but have lost touch with. I'm talking about girls I may have dated (and it didn't end poorly, but rather fizzled) and girls in which I had some chemistry (more acquaintances) but did not pursue further due to lack of game.

How do I contact these chicks so as not to come across awkwardly? Send a text saying "Hi, long time no talk. How's life?"
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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tryst type

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Honestly I've learned unless its a serendipitous bump into an old fling/ex/friend I general look forward to new prospects.

But it's your choice and if you're looking to go that route a good text is:
"Did I just see you leaving Starbucks? (Any place really that would sound plausible for the girl)

Then just take it from there. No awkward vibe in a text like that.
 

Montague_Leach

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You're better off meeting new women instead of going back for old chicks. They have moved on and probably won't be too friendly to you when you contact them.
 

plate's_empty

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On a reverse note, I get contacted by old chicks every once in a while. They're usually cool at first saying they want to meet back up, but then once I start being nice....they start bringing up old $hit and telling me all the times they thought I was an a$$hole....always exaggerated nit pickey stupid stuff. It's like did you really just contact me after a year so you could talk $hit??
 
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