"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Met this girl in class Wednesday who showed high interest. She came and sat next to me when class ended when and used the topic I'm doing for my research paper as an excuse to converse with me. I hugged her goodbye and she asked to exchange numbers so I took down hers and she told me to call or text. We were supposed to meet up at my place to "study" for the research paper yesterday night but she flaked, no text or call. I called her around 40 minutes later but she didn't pick up so I sent a text 5 minutes later saying that I guess we got mixed up on the times and that I tried to call but her battery must have been dead. She finally replied around 11 this morning.

HB: [my name]! I am SO sorry about yesterday! my friend gave me melatonin or something because I haven't been sleeping well and i think they kicked in yesterday since i was out since midday. I hope you werent too dissapointed
Me: Beth don't worry about it! I just ended up partying a little earlier haha
HB: Lol, welll im glad you had fun then ~ i literally woke up 30 minutes before i texted you haha
HB: Did you finish your research?
Me: I wish I could have slept in but my uncle came over to install a filter for my pool at 9! Haven't even started on the research yet haha!

It's been about an hour and a half since I sent the last text. I want to get her over to my pad tonight. Should I wait and see what she says, or send another text as a join-in invite like "I'll be doing the research tonight at 7 if you'd like to work on it together"?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Bump. I got class with her tomorrow at 11AM and it's about 7:20 PM. Would asking her out for tonight be too soon? "Going to start on my research for our paper soon soon, come over at 8:30 if you want to join in"?

Edit: Decided to call her instead - she apologized again for missing the last date and agreed to coming over here in an hour... I will let you guys know how it goes. Any last minute tips for having her over here?
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Usually I would have nexted, but I followed my intuition on this one because I felt a lot of attraction from her since she approached me. It worked out, we kissed last night. In 6 hours I got class with her, I'm pretty tired but I'll probably still go.
 
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A kiss? Or a pity peck?

I would guess that the OP has not had sex in a LONG time.

* Calling 40 minutes after she blows you off?
* Then texting 5 minutes after that?
* Then assuming her battery died?
* Then asking for last minute tips when she comes over?
* Then kissing and telling?
* Then needing more than 6 hours to prepare for class?

Bad.
 
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bigneil said:
A kiss? Or a pity peck?
A good 3 second kiss on the lips.
I would guess that the OP has not had sex in a LONG time.
Working on it!
* Calling 40 minutes after she blows you off?
* Then assuming her battery died?
* Then texting 5 minutes after that?
I didn't really believe her battery died. I gave her an out and I was able to be nonchalant about it. She apologized. I appreciate the rules about not calling or texting when a meetup has been scheduled; maybe I shouldn't have done either. But as I improve at playing it by ear there will be growing pains.
* Then asking for last minute tips when she comes over?
So I was fishing for some advice before she got here. The forum description says ask questions or give advice. Also, she came over in less than an hour after I called her when it's a 30 minute drive from her place to mine.
* Then kissing and telling?
I'm not really seeing what's wrong with describing what occurred on the date to anonymous people on the DJ discussion forum.
* Then needing more than 6 hours to prepare for class?
It was 5 in the morning and I still had to get sleep and prepare my research to turn in, which I didn't finish up on until 7. My cousin came over after she left and kept me up until he fell asleep sometime after 4. I woke up with a bit of a hangover nausea, but it passed so I was able to suck it up and go to class, however she wasn't there today.

Bad.
Matter of fact, it actually felt pretty good. :D
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During the date she was like "oh we should take classes together next semester!" and "oh we need to get that movie at redbox sometime and watch it together" We were also drinking vodka last night. I'm thinking about inviting her over tomorrow for drinks and a movie and then escalating further quickly while the iron's hot.
 
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This isn't the 50's. A kiss doesn't mean much. What does mean much is her flaking on you with a ridiculously LAME beyond LAME excuse.

A girl who is really as into you as much as you THINK that this girl is into you would have moved MOUNTAINS to make it to your place that night.
 
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