"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How To Put My Arm Around Her In The Movies?!?!

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miba

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Ok,

So im asking out a girl to movies. I hope to kiss her.

How to succesfully put my arm around her without being awkard?

Do I say at the start - 'Hey you wanna lie down and bit?' and lift up the arm rest.

Jokingly at the start be like 'YAWWN! and then put my arm around her, and be like 'ooo look my arm has misplaced itself'

i have noo clue ....HELP ME!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Lol you could have just had this in your other thread...but anyway..

The simplest and most convenient explanation anyone can give you is trust your instinct. If it feels right, go for it. If you feel comfortable, but something inside you says 'no', don't do it. If you feel terrible about it, obviously don't do it.

That said, improvise.
 

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nooooooo i dont improvise. i like to be planned - otherwise i stuff up, whats your experience?
 

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if you like to plan your dealings with society, then you fail.

learn to trust your instincts, no 2 situations are ever the same, and things will never go exactly as planned, because if they did, i'm sure virgins would be nonextistant if they wished to lose their virginity.
 

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Well atleast some one tell me how they did it succesfully or their stories.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If there aren't many other people around throw single pop-corns at her head until you get in to a mock fight with her, grab her arm and pull her toward you, get her in a headlock.. tell her to stop disturbing you while you're trying to watch the film then relax back with your arm around her.

If there's a lot of people about, don't do this! It's ignorant and anti-social!

There's only so much planning you can do.. having a few beers first (both of you) will ensure putting your arm around her comes natural with zero awkwardness between either of you and without disturbing anyone.. :p

The Muscly Jerk
 

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Just do it. See if it goes over well afterwards. "Better to ask for forgiveness than permission."

Another thing to keep in mind: Women mirror you. If you make it all akward when you go in to put your arm around her, she'll think its akward. Just be calm and cool about it, and don't dilly-dally. If she has any kind of interest in you, then you have nothing to worry about.

Remember, she already said YES to go out with you. She showed up. She hasn't walked out yet. You're doing fine man.
 

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musclyjerk said:
If there aren't many other people around throw single pop-corns at her head until you get in to a mock fight with her, grab her arm and pull her toward you, get her in a headlock.. tell her to stop disturbing you while you're trying to watch the film then relax back with your arm around her.
That sounds good, but I dont want to hurt her. Have you used this one before? and what were the results? kiss?
 

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When I did it the pop-corns caused huge dents in her head, caused her to lose consciousness and she fell off the seat, hit her head on the floor and broke her jaw in several places.

I kissed her while she lay unconscious then copped a feel, does that count?

Are you being serious or are you winding us up?

The Muscly Jerk
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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miba said:
im serious
You won't hurt her, and it doesn't matter if you do - it will probably score you points anyway. Girls are strange.

Trust me, this will work if she's interested in you just a little bit - and send her interest far higher.

The Muscly Jerk
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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No dude, muscly is way off... in fact we should call him musclySOFTIE!

What you do is this. AS you go to your seat, give her a good slap on the ass. make sure it leaves the 5 finger mark. this will get her excited. Then , as the previews start, look at her and say "YOU KNOW WHATS FUN? HAVING SEX IN FRONT OF 200 PEOPLE!" Now before she replies ANYTHING, grab her by the hair and WHIP OUT THE PENISPOPCORN. If she resists, use a tazer to inspire her.

Oh, and if she is under 12, take her to the PG rated movies or you won't get in.
 

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miba, quit being a pvssy mate! Musclyjerk is right on with his advice, play fighting is an awesome way of touching, laughing together, having fun and hence building attraction. My girlfriend and I do it all the time, and I'll end up grabbing her head for example and nuggying her. Is she 'hurting me' or am I 'hurting her'? Noo!! Of course not, we're just goofing around and having fun.

Remember, girls like fun guys who're not scared of them. And if the girl is interested in you, she'll probably be glad that you've initiated some kind of fun and kino. She's not gonna get annoyed at you, if you do it in the fun way, because she likes you...

Haha, what's so hard about understanding this?

-shaun
 

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Tell her during a boring movie, "Are you ticklish?" and if she says yes, then tickle her, and she'll try and tickle you back.. Get into a flirty little play tickle war. If she says no, say "liar" then tickle her... and if she really isn't ticklish, just say "wow.. you're broken.." If she asks you if you're ticklish, just say "Uhhh, let's not ask me that and smile" She'll want to tickle you. When she tries to tickle you, put your arm around her and hold her other arm to keep her from tickling you.

Another way you could put your arm around her is if she says something about her day and tell her "no way! I don't believe it..!" and just put your arm around her while smiling... make it seem natural it will be natural. lift your arm up and over her head. Sliding it in there would seem unnatural like you're trying to sneak it in there.

Oh yeah, from my experience, girls like it better when your arm is around her neck than all the way across her back. My girlfriend always moves my arm from around her to higher where my arm is around her neck so she can get closer to me.
 

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miba said:
Ok,

So im asking out a girl to movies. I hope to kiss her.

How to succesfully put my arm around her without being awkard?

Do I say at the start - 'Hey you wanna lie down and bit?' and lift up the arm rest.

Jokingly at the start be like 'YAWWN! and then put my arm around her, and be like 'ooo look my arm has misplaced itself'

i have noo clue ....HELP ME!
This is a horrible post...

Sorry, don't mean to offend, but seriously.

You are way overthinking for one. Quit thinking so much.
STOP IT!

NOW!

Just do it as if it's her treat, not yours.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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