how to pursue a girl correctly w/out looking like a crazy man

[jigga23]

well ive written a couple of posts about this chick ive been talkin to on and off for a month or two. im use to girls coming after me (which she did) and having things flow nicely (which didnt happen). ive fvcked up with her a couple of times. am i pursuing this girl correctly - I contact her like once a week at most (mostly saturdays only) before i talked to her maybe 2 times at the most in a week but after she gives IOD's i just stop calling her for a week or two and she contacts me to hang out or whatever giving me IOI's like hardcore (mostly on saturdays). we hang out at mostly bars and stuff but thats about it. Then shell give me IOD and the cycle repeats. am i pursuing correctly? i dont want to seem like a creep calling her a couple times a week or whatever. we usually meet up and stuff i try not to follow her around i usually do my own thing then i go chill with her. How do i step up the intensity with this girl w/out lookin like a chump and get it to the next level. if youve read my other posts her view of me is that im a ****y d!ck to put it in perspective. in the mean time i do pursue other women try to meet others etc.

 

[Macgyver]

Step up the intensity, by trying to know her.

 

[jigga23]

her stupid guard she has up against me wont even let me take her on a formal date we only chill at bars and everytime were drinking. its basically we know each other in a bar scene not oout of it. i want to change that

 

[WC2]

You definitely want to change that.

Girls enjoy guys who are there when it is conveinent for them, at the same place all the time.

Girls WANT guys who aren't always going to be there at their needed call. They want someone spontaneous and unpredictable. If you're seeing this girl at the bar every week at the same time in the same place, then you've already dug yourself a deep hole.

Sure, it's fine to goto the bar the same nights with your friends. With that said, it's not ok to approach this same girl every time if you really like her. Same place, same time, means most likely the same boring conversation.

You want to show this girl three things
1. You can and will bang other chicks and don't need her
2. You're a succcessful guy who is full of confidence
3. You are spontaneous, unpredictable, and funny

From now on, keep the talk at the bar limited to a little kino and flirting. Besides that, talking about daily life isn't really a turn on for women unless you're making them laugh. Give her yourself in small doses. If you aren't paying her much attention, then most of the time she'll grow irritated. This is good. The ball is now in your court to setup a short, fun date (no more than 45min). Possibly something fun like the driving range or even just a walk outside.

If a girl knows she has you whenever she wants you, theres no hope. Make her want you.