"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How To Pull Off Sarcasm

AbsolutBeirut

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One of my sticking points is that whenever I try to be sarcastic, people take me seriously. They don't get that I am joking and that puts me in an awkward situation afterwards. It's not that I'm trying to be sarcastic to appear cool, I just feel like throwing sarcastic comments here and there. Should I resist the temptation to do so or is there a way to do it right? My problem is that sometimes I appear tense and people feel that I'm too serious. How can I train myself to loosen up? Any help on this is appreciated.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You could say "I'm joking". After you make your sarcastic comment. I find that helps alot.

WIth sarcasm you have to tread lightly on it. Sometimes people take it the wrong way. Saying "I'm kidding with you" helps too.
 

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I used to have that problem. Say it with a subtle smile on your face. You cal also experiment with the tone of voice. Keep practicing, you'll get it right. :)
 

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Krassus said:
I used to have that problem. Say it with a subtle smile on your face. You cal also experiment with the tone of voice. Keep practicing, you'll get it right. :)
That's the trick right now. You have to show them you're playing with your smile and tone of voice. If you don't do it right, then you're just going to come off as a sarcastic a-hole.
 

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Never apologize to a girl if you use sarcasm on her, It will only hurt your chances with her. Even if it seems that she takes offense play it cool, smile, and pretend you never even said it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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T Money

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Yeah I smile when i'm sarcastic, and people think it's funny. If I try to pull off the "dry humor, people will laugh while I maintain a straight face" type of humor, people just don't get it.
 

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Saying "I'm joking" afterwards kinda messes up the whole point of being sarcastic. I usually have a very dry and sarcastic humor and not alot of people will get the joke, but when they do, they'll laugh their arses off!

Your body language, and especially your facial expression and your tone of voice play an important role when being sarcastic. I used to be the King of Sarcastic humor in HS, but I pushed it too far with this one chick. I got an email from her once asking me why I 'hated' her. hehe funny stuff.
 

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Yeah, dry humour is often associated with people who are boring and hate the world. If you're trying to be funny, sly smiles are your biggest weapon in making her smile back.

They're contagious!
Not neccesarily "hate the world" but dry humor is usually associated with high brow intellectual types. I avoid sarcastic humor since it's overused and more associated with the young and "need to be hip" (read college age). Dry humor is probably best avoided outside circles of people you already know well (fellow Oxfords and Harvard men for example).
 

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Yotsuya-san said:
Not neccesarily "hate the world" but dry humor is usually associated with high brow intellectual types. I avoid sarcastic humor since it's overused and more associated with the young and "need to be hip" (read college age). Dry humor is probably best avoided outside circles of people you already know well (fellow Oxfords and Harvard men for example).
What exactly is Dry Humor? Is it being sarcastic?

People tell me I have a dry sense of humor all the time but I really am not trying to do so.
 

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I dont know why that should happen to you, perhaps your demeanor?
The opposite happens to me, when im serious my friend always thinks im being sarcastic. But I cant blame him cause he asks me dumb questions sometimes...more like questions with obvious answers.
When I truly am being sarcastic, i just make it very obvious with my tone of voice and facial expression.

Cant quite say it comes with practice, it should be natural
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Centaurion

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Look at Monty Pyton for examples on dry humor.
 
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