How to promote yourself into a better social circle?

[NSX-R]

How to do it? Currently I'm stucked with my old social circle that I had since my afc days. I don't belong with those people and it's pretty obvious in the way i dress , my manners , my morals and my very high standards .For example ,yesterday night I was in Zurich with a couple of my friends and in couple of clubs they would only allow me inside because of my expensive and gentle style of clothing.

Better one i mean , higher class people , more sophisticated and people who deal with high importance things or are owners of big businesses .

I believe this is another step on becoming a true dj . Through higher class people , you get better opportunities, important contacts , you adopt also their manners and end up being more succesfull. I'm not going to mention about women.

So what kind of steps do I need to get into these exclusive social circles?

If it is in the wrong section then move it .

 

[BeExcellent]

Go where high value people go. Become known in those venues. High end restaurants, clubs, happy hour, racquet clubs, ski places, etc. Attend fundraisers & donate some money to charity. Chat with people (men or women), introduce yourself, smile, and observe who the movers & shakers are.

I travel all the time on business. This is how I've made cool friends all over the place. I've met production moguls, Hollywood people, artists, athletes & countless successful folks doing this. Some of these people will gravitate to you if you have sufficient chops to hold your own in a conversation.

Practice chatting socially everywhere you go. Even if you aren't attracted to a woman with whom you visit, even if you find the guy next to you boring. Even if you never see your conversation partner again you will practice the gift of gab and practice charm.

This also helps you build social proof in the venue. Get to know bartenders. Be friendly. Smile. Be recognized. Others want to know those who are known. Become known.

Also be extremely aware of your appearance. You were better dressed than your mates so you were admitted to the clubs because your image was in line with the club's image. Your mates were not. Your shoes should be the best you can afford but not style victim trendy, your hands should be well kept if not manicured, your face & hair should be impeccably groomed.

Take each opportunity as its own little adventure. Who knows who you'll meet or how it will go. Just be open & cordial and engaging and people will be attracted to you.

Once they are attracted to you its best to have substance to demonstrate you actually belong in the group. Nobody digs a poser or a phony.

 

[BeExcellent]

One final thought. If you meet people who are high value and mingle with them, listen more than you speak, absorb what they say.

If you get invited to a private venue; a yacht, a private jet, an exclusive event or a wealthy person's private home or environs, be gracious but do not gush. Behave with class. You'll sound like a chode if you are saying things like "Wow, I've never been in a private jet before" or "this car/home/party is amazing" (even if honestly it is)...that's for the girls to do.

You are best to act like this happens all the time. If you are curious then ask open ended questions like "what makes you happy here?" Be genuinely curious about the person and doors will open for you.

 

[NSX-R]

One final thought. If you meet people who are high value and mingle with them, listen more than you speak, absorb what they say.

If you get invited to a private venue; a yacht, a private jet, an exclusive event or a wealthy person's private home or environs, be gracious but do not gush. Behave with class. You'll sound like a chode if you are saying things like "Wow, I've never been in a private jet before" or "this car/home/party is amazing" (even if honestly it is)...that's for the girls to do.

You are best to act like this happens all the time. If you are curious then ask open ended questions like "what makes you happy here?" Be genuinely curious about the person and doors will open for you.

I Appreciate your imput , I'll use it as much as i can .
How about an expensive car . I'm going to buy a ferrari soon and i was wondering if this would help .

 

[SgtSplacker]

How to do it? Currently I'm stucked with my old social circle that I had since my afc days. I don't belong with those people and it's pretty obvious in the way i dress , my manners , my morals and my very high standards .For example ,yesterday night I was in Zurich with a couple of my friends and in couple of clubs they would only allow me inside because of my expensive and gentle style of clothing.

Better one i mean , higher class people , more sophisticated and people who deal with high importance things or are owners of big businesses .

I believe this is another step on becoming a true dj . Through higher class people , you get better opportunities, important contacts , you adopt also their manners and end up being more succesfull. I'm not going to mention about women.

So what kind of steps do I need to get into these exclusive social circles?

If it is in the wrong section then move it .

In South Florida if you own a boat just invite a prospective friend fishing. Maybe something along these lines?

Like if you want politician friends just start using hookers or something lol!

Get into philanthropy?

 

[BeExcellent]

@NSX-R I'LL pass along the advice my mentor & investor gave me regarding high end cars when I asked him what he thought of me getting a Maserati...this is advice from a retired car dealer:

He said if you can easily afford it, and you REALLY have the discretionary income then sure. The ongoing costs are going to be extremely high, I know routine maintenance for the Maserati was north of 10K-12K per year. That's oil changes and service alone. If something actually needs fixed, the repairs will be ridiculous.

He also noted that a conspicuous car will make you a target to some degree depending on your locale. You'd be less conspicuous in Newport Beach, CA than lots of other places since lots of folks there drive exotic cars. In Zurich I've no idea but I'd think there is a sophisticated eschelon there as well. You have to be careful about where you park a Ferrari. Nobody cares where you park a Volkswagon.

Obviously an exotic car has cache. It will help you with exclusive nightlife venues & attract hot women. But the hot women are going to expect you to have substantial money so the rest of your lifestyle should be congruent with the Ferrari. Never brag. Let what you do, who you are and what you have speak for itself.

I decided to wait to get myself a Maserati. I do so much driving still late at night I thought how ridiculous would I look on the side of the highway in an exotic Italian car with truckers stopping if the car were to break down. I'd be a sitting duck. But I have somewhat different concerns as a beautiful woman traveling alone. I need more anonymity
not less.

But I do plan to get one in the few years. I like the design of the car & yes the Ferrari engine. But I'm not a buyer to impress anyone else. I'm a buyer for me...and I do have a hard time with carrying costs so high they subtract from money I can deploy to increase wealth.

So those are my thoughts FWIW.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

High society does not automatically indicate high value, nor even success. An expensive and glamourous lifestyle is definitely appealing on a superficial level, but don't be mistaken to expect that people you meet will be much different than people you already know; for now and forever.

I've mixed with poor students, tradespeople, through the middle classes middle classes, academics, millionnaires and royal peers. Frankly, everyone's sh!t smells exactly the same.

It doesn't really matter where people are from, or where you hang out together, not even what you wear. Better to work out what personalities compliment your own, opposed to relying souly on superficial indicators. Also filter existing people from your life, rather than removing them all.

Some of the most well off people I have met are the least in touch with reality because many never had to work for what they have. Equally, some of the most genuine characters you meet are those who have relatively little and therefore appreciate fully what they do have. I like to mix it up and appreciate the character opposed to just what I can see.

 

[Skyline]

@NSX-R I'LL pass along the advice my mentor & investor gave me regarding high end cars when I asked him what he thought of me getting a Maserati...this is advice from a retired car dealer:

He said if you can easily afford it, and you REALLY have the discretionary income then sure. The ongoing costs are going to be extremely high, I know routine maintenance for the Maserati was north of 10K-12K per year. That's oil changes and service alone. If something actually needs fixed, the repairs will be ridiculous.

He also noted that a conspicuous car will make you a target to some degree depending on your locale. You'd be less conspicuous in Newport Beach, CA than lots of other places since lots of folks there drive exotic cars. In Zurich I've no idea but I'd think there is a sophisticated eschelon there as well. You have to be careful about where you park a Ferrari. Nobody cares where you park a Volkswagon.

Obviously an exotic car has cache. It will help you with exclusive nightlife venues & attract hot women. But the hot women are going to expect you to have substantial money so the rest of your lifestyle should be congruent with the Ferrari. Never brag. Let what you do, who you are and what you have speak for itself.

I decided to wait to get myself a Maserati. I do so much driving still late at night I thought how ridiculous would I look on the side of the highway in an exotic Italian car with truckers stopping if the car were to break down. I'd be a sitting duck. But I have somewhat different concerns as a beautiful woman traveling alone. I need more anonymity
not less.

But I do plan to get one in the few years. I like the design of the car & yes the Ferrari engine. But I'm not a buyer to impress anyone else. I'm a buyer for me...and I do have a hard time with carrying costs so high they subtract from money I can deploy to increase wealth.

So those are my thoughts FWIW.

Maserati's are a waste of money. They're a masked Chrysler, an interior and performance like that isn't worth six figures.

Unless you make half a million a year or own a car lot, don't get a new Ferrari(458-488). Used 430's and 360's are much more affordable to maintain though.

C7 Z06 corvette, Mercedes S550 4MATIC, and a Tesla P85D all are equal if not better. The P85D doesn't have the interior quality to back up its price tag but it does have the MPG and low maintenance costs.

If you really want an Italian car that isn't Fiat or Alfa Romeo, get a Lotus Evora S. Exotic, crazy cheap to maintain, good performance, but unfortunately it is tiny.

All of those cars will bring the same level of class to any venue as well.

 

[Roober]

Maserati's are a waste of money. They're a masked Chrysler, an interior and performance like that isn't worth six figures.

Unless you make half a million a year or own a car lot, don't get a new Ferrari(458-488). Used 430's and 360's are much more affordable to maintain though.

C7 Z06 corvette, Mercedes S550 4MATIC, and a Tesla P85D all are equal if not better. The P85D doesn't have the interior quality to back up its price tag but it does have the MPG and low maintenance costs.

If you really want an Italian car that isn't Fiat or Alfa Romeo, get a Lotus Evora S. Exotic, crazy cheap to maintain, good performance, but unfortunately it is tiny.

All of those cars will bring the same level of class to any venue as well.

Second the Tesla! 0-60 in 2.3 seconds!

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Maserati's are a waste of money. They're a masked Chrysler, an interior and performance like that isn't worth six figures.

Unless you make half a million a year or own a car lot, don't get a new Ferrari(458-488). Used 430's and 360's are much more affordable to maintain though.

C7 Z06 corvette, Mercedes S550 4MATIC, and a Tesla P85D all are equal if not better. The P85D doesn't have the interior quality to back up its price tag but it does have the MPG and low maintenance costs.

If you really want an Italian car that isn't Fiat or Alfa Romeo, get a Lotus Evora S. Exotic, crazy cheap to maintain, good performance, but unfortunately it is tiny.

All of those cars will bring the same level of class to any venue as well.

If you got money, I'd say to get a Mercedes S-Class. AMG S65 would be a dream for me. Not over the top on the outside, but definitely a great car.

 

[BeExcellent]

Good advice about the Maserati. I'm not a new car buyer. Too frugal for that. I'm thinking a 2012-2014 Quattroporte, which can be found in the mid 30K range with reasonable miles.

I have a friend who is an exotic car guy in the OC...he's pretty blunt about what's what.

I don't like the lines of the Corvette or the Ferraris or the Lotus. Too masculine for me.

The Mercedes are very cool also.

 

[NSX-R]

@NSX-R I'LL pass along the advice my mentor & investor gave me regarding high end cars when I asked him what he thought of me getting a Maserati...this is advice from a retired car dealer:

He said if you can easily afford it, and you REALLY have the discretionary income then sure. The ongoing costs are going to be extremely high, I know routine maintenance for the Maserati was north of 10K-12K per year. That's oil changes and service alone. If something actually needs fixed, the repairs will be ridiculous.

He also noted that a conspicuous car will make you a target to some degree depending on your locale. You'd be less conspicuous in Newport Beach, CA than lots of other places since lots of folks there drive exotic cars. In Zurich I've no idea but I'd think there is a sophisticated eschelon there as well. You have to be careful about where you park a Ferrari. Nobody cares where you park a Volkswagon.

Obviously an exotic car has cache. It will help you with exclusive nightlife venues & attract hot women. But the hot women are going to expect you to have substantial money so the rest of your lifestyle should be congruent with the Ferrari. Never brag. Let what you do, who you are and what you have speak for itself.

I decided to wait to get myself a Maserati. I do so much driving still late at night I thought how ridiculous would I look on the side of the highway in an exotic Italian car with truckers stopping if the car were to break down. I'd be a sitting duck. But I have somewhat different concerns as a beautiful woman traveling alone. I need more anonymity
not less.

But I do plan to get one in the few years. I like the design of the car & yes the Ferrari engine. But I'm not a buyer to impress anyone else. I'm a buyer for me...and I do have a hard time with carrying costs so high they subtract from money I can deploy to increase wealth.

So those are my thoughts FWIW.

I'm already aware of the high costs since my family has been always around expensive cars. I have my own business and make 250k a year in my pocket and I'm going for a used Ferrari from the 90s since I'm not a big fan of the newer ones.
I used to own an Audi A5 but there were so many of them in my area , as many as VW Golfs and very few could notice me. In Zurich you see almost everywhere high end cars and mostly Saturday night other than taxis you see only very expensive cars. It's a paradise for car lovers. There is also an exclusive club that I've heard of it's only for supercar owners , so i think that's a good opportunity to start from somewhere.

High society does not automatically indicate high value, nor even success. An expensive and glamourous lifestyle is definitely appealing on a superficial level, but don't be mistaken to expect that people you meet will be much different than people you already know; for now and forever.

I've mixed with poor students, tradespeople, through the middle classes middle classes, academics, millionnaires and royal peers. Frankly, everyone's sh!t smells exactly the same.

It doesn't really matter where people are from, or where you hang out together, not even what you wear. Better to work out what personalities compliment your own, opposed to relying souly on superficial indicators. Also filter existing people from your life, rather than removing them all.

Some of the most well off people I have met are the least in touch with reality because many never had to work for what they have. Equally, some of the most genuine characters you meet are those who have relatively little and therefore appreciate fully what they do have. I like to mix it up and appreciate the character opposed to just what I can see.

I agree with you in some points. I have to filter most of people if i want to have a friendship with but in this kind of place , you can only use the contacts to get yourself even higher. You have to move smart aswell because these people are going to use you for their own benefits. If you have high targets , only through these contacts you can achieve them. That's the purpose of all this.

Maserati's are a waste of money. They're a masked Chrysler, an interior and performance like that isn't worth six figures.

Unless you make half a million a year or own a car lot, don't get a new Ferrari(458-488). Used 430's and 360's are much more affordable to maintain though.

C7 Z06 corvette, Mercedes S550 4MATIC, and a Tesla P85D all are equal if not better. The P85D doesn't have the interior quality to back up its price tag but it does have the MPG and low maintenance costs.

If you really want an Italian car that isn't Fiat or Alfa Romeo, get a Lotus Evora S. Exotic, crazy cheap to maintain, good performance, but unfortunately it is tiny.

All of those cars will bring the same level of class to any venue as well.

The father of an ex plate has a Masserati Gran Turismo. Very nice car but a headache considering maintance and running costs. They are also very cheap in the used car market.
I hate everything expensive with four doors. Specifically , here there are a looooot of S classes Mercedes and all of them owned by people in their 80s.I'm not going to mention depreciation is the worst part about this car. As soon as you turn on the engine , it's automatically 5.000 minus of it's value. The C7 was also in my radar but it's not the same as a Ferrari. The lotus comes from England and not Italia.

 

[NSX-R]

In South Florida if you own a boat just invite a prospective friend fishing. Maybe something along these lines?

Like if you want politician friends just start using hookers or something lol!

Get into philanthropy?

How would philanthropy help other than helping people in need?

 

[SgtSplacker]

Sometimes there's groups involved, any charity work saving dolphins or something like that lol. Rotary club..local parks, art district..

 

[Trump]

I travel all the time on business. This is how I've made cool friends all over the place. I've met production moguls, Hollywood people, artists, athletes & countless successful folks doing this.

If you get invited to a private venue; a yacht, a private jet, an exclusive event or a wealthy person's private home or environs, be gracious but do not gush. Behave with class. You'll sound like a chode if you are saying things like "Wow, I've never been in a private jet before" or "this car/home/party is amazing" (even if honestly it is)...that's for the girls to do.

You've met Hollywood moguls to the likes of Brad Pitt and Scarlett Johansson, met famous Directors and athletes and top musicians to the likes of Madonna and Taylor Swift, you've been invited to private jets and yachts with extremely wealthy, powerful, well connected people,

And you're giving advice on an online website for men on how to pickup women?

Something is not adding up for me...

 

[Skyline]

Good advice about the Maserati. I'm not a new car buyer. Too frugal for that. I'm thinking a 2012-2014 Quattroporte, which can be found in the mid 30K range with reasonable miles.

I have a friend who is an exotic car guy in the OC...he's pretty blunt about what's what.

I don't like the lines of the Corvette or the Ferraris or the Lotus. Too masculine for me.

The Mercedes are very cool also.

Try a used Jaguar XF. The massaging seats was a focus point for me. You can get one for $30k. I would say to stay away form Maserati. They look nice but just aren't worth the money at the moment.

I always recommend buying used cars!

@NSX-R i seriously thought Lotus was Italian thus whole time... And I don't blame them. S550's are incredibly luxurious and can be found for a good price used.

 

[BeExcellent]

You've met Hollywood moguls to the likes of Brad Pitt and Scarlett Johansson, met famous Directors and athletes and top musicians to the likes of Madonna and Taylor Swift, you've been invited to private jets and yachts with extremely wealthy, powerful, well connected people,

And you're giving advice on an online website for men on how to pickup women?

Something is not adding up for me...

As noted elsewhere on SS my ex husband was in the nightclub business in a city famous for nightlife. His was the top high end club in town for a number of years, so yes, we had A list clientele with some frequency. We got to know some of those people.

Additionally I grew up in a well connected family in an affluent area. So I've been in private jets, on expensive boats and in exclusive venues. I've been around high value high profile people all my life.

But I don't name drop.

One of my brothers is a production engineer in the music business and works for various internationally known people.

In the entertainment business there are countless support personnel and businesses who are NOT famous. Agents, production people, corporate people, etc. My brother has NO desire for example, to be famous. Fame takes away peace & privacy to a great degree. But my brother can go to the grocery store & nobody knows him. No paparazzi chases him. Most of my friends in this realm fall into this category.

I'm obviously older now & rearing children so I'm not actively in the entertainment business anymore although I'm still in business. I share things that I think might offer perspective here based on my experience and background.