Hey there guys, new to the forum, but a practitioner of these basic ideas for a long time. I have already contemplated and figured my course of action, but I wanted to see if you had any better suggestions at all. Alright, here goes.
I met a girl that I have quite a deep connection with. We met and fell into deep discussion with one another. I decided to let it go, even though it haunted me for days afterward. After a week long business trip, I was performing(singing and playing guitar) at a local club. Knowing this was a great opportunity to speak to her again, I had her brought along by a friend of hers.
She starts doing the female "date idea dropping" thing, to which I acti oblivious. She also was getting jealous of the other girls walking up to me a flirting.
Long story short, we eventually planned on getting together that next week. Hour before, you guessed it, she calls and cancels. Now, knowing how important 'freedom' is to this girl, (after a decent discussion about it), I said "Alright, bye." She called again and suggested Sunday on my voicemail.
I told her I was performing at this bar that day and couldn't get together, but she was more then welcome to come see me there. She said sure. Then, you guessed it, she canceled again. "Fine. Bye."
Then it sets in. I have other women within decent range, that's fine. However, after deliberation I realized that she is testing my resolve. Now like any Don Juan (lol), I decide that she is definitely worth the trouble.
On Wednesday, I call and leave the message "Hey, I'm going to the ******* on Friday at this time. Bye" I get a message within the hour "I totally want to go to the ***** with you!"
We decide to meet for coffee first (it's a morning date). She shows up and we end up talking for 2 1/2 hours or so and then part.
From listening to her and observing, body lanquage, eye contact, and attention are there. We also have conversation that most people kill for. So all those connections are there.
Here's an issue though: Her questions are always revolving around finding my "relationship stability." She basically and in so many words wants to know I'm not going to take off on her and/or otherwise hurt her.
Now I promise nothing. but my intentions are entirely serious. Everything is there, the signs, the connection, everything..She goes into the bathroom and comes back out saying "I don't date, ever....I hang out with people, but I don't date." Then we go right back into this other great conversation.
Question is: I know it's there. I need to change up this act a bit or run the already risked "nice guy" title. However, I notice she has issues of how committed I am and keeps tabs on it. I am a subtly persistent guy and will continue on this action because she is worth it, but any thoughts on how to make realize that I'm alright to trust herself to without losing her interest in the process?
Thanks!
I met a girl that I have quite a deep connection with. We met and fell into deep discussion with one another. I decided to let it go, even though it haunted me for days afterward. After a week long business trip, I was performing(singing and playing guitar) at a local club. Knowing this was a great opportunity to speak to her again, I had her brought along by a friend of hers.
She starts doing the female "date idea dropping" thing, to which I acti oblivious. She also was getting jealous of the other girls walking up to me a flirting.
Long story short, we eventually planned on getting together that next week. Hour before, you guessed it, she calls and cancels. Now, knowing how important 'freedom' is to this girl, (after a decent discussion about it), I said "Alright, bye." She called again and suggested Sunday on my voicemail.
I told her I was performing at this bar that day and couldn't get together, but she was more then welcome to come see me there. She said sure. Then, you guessed it, she canceled again. "Fine. Bye."
Then it sets in. I have other women within decent range, that's fine. However, after deliberation I realized that she is testing my resolve. Now like any Don Juan (lol), I decide that she is definitely worth the trouble.
On Wednesday, I call and leave the message "Hey, I'm going to the ******* on Friday at this time. Bye" I get a message within the hour "I totally want to go to the ***** with you!"
We decide to meet for coffee first (it's a morning date). She shows up and we end up talking for 2 1/2 hours or so and then part.
From listening to her and observing, body lanquage, eye contact, and attention are there. We also have conversation that most people kill for. So all those connections are there.
Here's an issue though: Her questions are always revolving around finding my "relationship stability." She basically and in so many words wants to know I'm not going to take off on her and/or otherwise hurt her.
Now I promise nothing. but my intentions are entirely serious. Everything is there, the signs, the connection, everything..She goes into the bathroom and comes back out saying "I don't date, ever....I hang out with people, but I don't date." Then we go right back into this other great conversation.
Question is: I know it's there. I need to change up this act a bit or run the already risked "nice guy" title. However, I notice she has issues of how committed I am and keeps tabs on it. I am a subtly persistent guy and will continue on this action because she is worth it, but any thoughts on how to make realize that I'm alright to trust herself to without losing her interest in the process?
Thanks!
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