"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How to proceed?

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First time poster here but have been reading the forums for awhile for the hilarious comments.

I have a situation that I'm not certain how to proceed. I work for AT&T and helped a pretty attractive girl with a phone issue. It was a pretty complicated problem but throughout the interaction we talked about her trip she took earlier this summer to Europe, the trip I also took there, and other silly stuff. She kept complementing me that I've been very accommodating to her phone issue.

At the end of the interaction, I walked her through the door and even though I was wearing a nametag with my name, she said, "It was nice to meet you, you're name is Jack right?" After telling her that it was my name, I stuck my hang out and we shook hands (which looking back now, makes me feel awkward about, but I couldn't help it...it's what I do when I'm at work with customers).

At any rate, I'm convinced and so are my fellow co-workers that is was into me. My problem is that while she did technically give me her number ,should I contact her via text/calling or message her on her facebook? I just dont want to call or text her on her number and creep her out that I know it without truly asking for it in that manner.

Thanks.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Seriously, this thread is similar to the one another dude made yesterday, he claimed his boss was into him. Now, this is your imagination, she is not into you, and the two of you did not click. Don't contact her, even via facebook, you will loose your job.
 

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backseatjuan said:
Seriously, this thread is similar to the one another dude made yesterday, he claimed his boss was into him. Now, this is your imagination, she is not into you, and the two of you did not click. Don't contact her, even via facebook, you will loose your job.

Nah, I won't lose my job as confirmed later that day by my asst. manager and union representative. Especially since I do have the authority to contact her via text or calling to ask if her phone issue was permanently resolved. As far as AT&T is concerned, even if I ask her permission for further contact on a social level, I'm not breaking any code of business conduct rules.

I appreciate your feedback but I feel you're comparing that guy's thread and mine and automatically giving us the same answer. I wasn't really asking whether or not she was into me, that's already been established. I'm more asking for advice to not cross any boundaries and creep her out in regards of the best method of contact.
 
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At any rate, I'm convinced and so are my fellow co-workers that is was into me. My problem is that while she did technically give me her number ,should I contact her via text/calling or message her on her facebook? I just dont want to call or text her on her number and creep her out that I know it without truly asking for it in that manner.

Thanks.
Nothing you can do about it now, except learn. Next time you walk a pretty lady out, "I enjoyed our conversation, you seem like a cool person...what's your number, I'll give you a call sometime." -Naughty Ninja
 

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Nothing you can do about it now, except learn. Next time you walk a pretty lady out, "I enjoyed our conversation, you seem like a cool person...what's your number, I'll give you a call sometime." -Naughty Ninja

Surely, it isn't too late to start something with this girl though? At this point, I'm just wanting to minimize (probably can't eliminate) any potential creeper status with the best method of contact. Worst case, she rejects or ignores me. At that point, I probably won't see her again and no big deal. Best case, I land a date. I don't want to write it off.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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voirdire said:
Surely, it isn't too late to start something with this girl though? At this point, I'm just wanting to minimize (probably can't eliminate) any potential creeper status with the best method of contact. Worst case, she rejects or ignores me. At that point, I probably won't see her again and no big deal. Best case, I land a date. I don't want to write it off.
Is it appropriate to do a service follow-up call, to make sure things are still working properly? Or is that someone else's department?

If you CAN do the service follow-up call (and not get in trouble), make sure to open the door of conversation by mentioning something the two of you talked about that day.... Like how much you enjoyed talking about such and such, and how you both are similar when it comes to such and such.... She'll either go with it, or won't.... But you are giving HER the opportunity to show her interest, while you aren't really sticking out your neck very far to do so.

Good luck with your choice!

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Let it go, if she is somewhat interested, she will come back to the store. She will sniff out your desperation when you give her the "service" call. Just walk away.
 

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voirdire said:
Especially since I do have the authority to contact her via text or calling to ask if her phone issue was permanently resolved
where is the question? you do just that, see how excited she is to hear from you again, add some social convo and then ask her to proceed over lunch.

edit: there is a difference between showing desperation and showing interest.

i wouldnt do too much commonality talk over the phone, that sounds like overselling it, when the premise is that she digs you already anyways. your mindset should be "she likes me, i make it possible (to see each other again)"
 
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