So, I invited a coworker over on Valentine's Day, but she declined. I had been getting loads of interest from her and thought it would be a good way to get to know her outside of work, but alas, seems like it was a bad move. Whatever. No big deal. But we seem to be flirting with each other harder than ever now. We're constantly teasing each other and giving each other **** while we work. Just the other day she was seeking me out every ten minutes because I wouldn't tell her what I meant by a joke made earlier in the day. It was driving her crazy. Anyway, I'm not sure whether or not to pursue this further.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How to proceed.
- Thread starter wurrrwilf
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Jair213
Master Don Juan
She probably had something up set with another dude for valentines. I wouldn't ask her out again, make her do that move if she is interested she will.
Hmm. Well, the only reason I invited her in the first place was because she had said she didn't have any plans and that she'd probably end up drinking. I invited her to drink with me instead but she said she didn't want to leave her roommate at home by himself. I realize now my invitation probably wasn't the most enticing offer, considering she still doesn't even know me that well.