"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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AmazingTricks

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I graduated college a little while ago, the last day I was there this girl was flirting with me. All she had was my name, and by that night she already friended me on facebook. I tried to get her to come over that night...she said she would come over the next morning, but flaked. I ended up talking to her over break via txt msgs, on facebook a little, whatever. I came up to visit school this past weekend, made plans to meet her at a party....
I looked around for her at the start of the party, couldn't find her. She finds me at the end, hugs me, talks for two seconds, hugs me and leaves again. **** was cold other than the hugs. Next day I meet up with her again (made plans on txts) and we talk for a little. As I'm leaving this time, I tell her to come over the house (my game is pretty blunt) and she says, no, come over to my room. I say fine, tell her I'll call her later. Guess what? When I call her later (granted, this was like a few hours after I said I'd call, she doesn't pick up). Next morning I get a txt msg from her telling me she fell asleep. Anyway, should I discard this one, or is there anything left to be salvaged? How so?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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WC2

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DonGorgon said:
Tell That Ho To Call You When She Is Done Playing Games. And Not Befor
Honestly she's not playing games. She's being a woman. Girls don't always want straight forward attempts. They want things to be special. You texting her and telling her to come over isn't very special.

When she asked you to come over to her place, it was a blunt attempt to avoid you. She may like you, but like I said she wants something romantic and special. She doesn't want you to just "come over". By you saying yes, you just showed her that you'll do anything she wants. This was a test. The right thing to do in this situation was to say, "Nah that's okay I'm sure we'll get to chill some other time."

Right now you're wreaking of desperation, so just lay off her for a little while. If you see her out and you guys hit it off, fine. But until then you should probably relax with the blunt attempts to hang out. She either doesn't want to or wants you to come off a little differently to her.
 

AmazingTricks

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wc2. that's the conclusion i reached before you posted. in hindsight, i probably should've been smoother in my attempt. probably not too late to get with this girl, especially if she wants me to put in the effort/make me earn it. will try to be smoother/less interested next time.
 
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