"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Normally I dont have an problems with picking someone up. However this girl is a bartender at a local club, I've spent some time trying to gauge her interest. It all started with her introducing herself one night and hooking me up from then on (she wont even take my money for drinks). I still didnt read too much into this however, finally last week i hung wit her at the bar because she shut down and then came to breakfast with my friend and I, took my number (in case she got lost) before leaving, made a point to call my phone so i had hers.
I was texting her over the weekend and she was incredibly responsive..however I've heard (although not from the most reliable source) thats shes in a serious relationship and she seems to have backed off in the past week. Saw her last night and she mentioned i should come out to the bar next Friday before shes leaves on vacation...i dont want to be that guy that hits on the bartender or ruin a good thing there:) I have her # and I just picked the vibe that she was trying to avoid contact outside of the bar...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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True..however in situations like this i have NO game. I've always taken whats fallen into my lap which has been pretty good, but often miss out on ones like this because i will over think it to death. I took it as her being nice telling me i should come back next week and see her before she goes since i have her # and we were already texting me, but you are prob right and it may just be not showing any aggression. at this point im not sure if i should make an effort call/txt during the week or just wait till i see her friday and lay it on the line..
 
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