"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How to proceed?

drf408

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Normally I dont have an problems with picking someone up. However this girl is a bartender at a local club, I've spent some time trying to gauge her interest. It all started with her introducing herself one night and hooking me up from then on (she wont even take my money for drinks). I still didnt read too much into this however, finally last week i hung wit her at the bar because she shut down and then came to breakfast with my friend and I, took my number (in case she got lost) before leaving, made a point to call my phone so i had hers.
I was texting her over the weekend and she was incredibly responsive..however I've heard (although not from the most reliable source) thats shes in a serious relationship and she seems to have backed off in the past week. Saw her last night and she mentioned i should come out to the bar next Friday before shes leaves on vacation...i dont want to be that guy that hits on the bartender or ruin a good thing there:) I have her # and I just picked the vibe that she was trying to avoid contact outside of the bar...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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drf408

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True..however in situations like this i have NO game. I've always taken whats fallen into my lap which has been pretty good, but often miss out on ones like this because i will over think it to death. I took it as her being nice telling me i should come back next week and see her before she goes since i have her # and we were already texting me, but you are prob right and it may just be not showing any aggression. at this point im not sure if i should make an effort call/txt during the week or just wait till i see her friday and lay it on the line..
 
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