"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How to proceed with girl who is playing hard to get?

greatercalling

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So theres this girl in my math class who i think is really cute. Anyways i know her friend really well and her friend told me that this girl thinks im really hot and cute also and always talks about me on the phone . So i start talking to her for a few days now, i also went to her volleyball game the other day and stayed there for a few hours and hung out. Things went well, we flirted with each other and it felt like we were getting along well. So today after class i decided to ask for her number but she said "sorry i dont give out my number to people." and kinda gave me this weird look. I felt awkward and didnt know what to say really but just continued walking and talking with her in the halls. Does this mean she doesnt like me anymore? I mean i dont get girls sometimes, if she thought i was really cute and weve been connecting well these past few days why wouldnt she give out her number? Im confused at this point and dont know what i should do. Should i continue talking to her and getting to know her better to possibly ask her out or should i take this as a rejection and back off? Shes a sophomore and im a senior if that matters. Any advice about this would be much appreciated.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The Gambler

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Great post, man. My first thought was maybe she's not allowed to get phone calls from guys... (when I was growing up, I had an a-hole stepfather who didn't let me or my brother use the phone...) Regardless, she may be from a conservative family.

Secondly, she might be shy or afraid to open up so quickly.... Especially if she REALLY likes someone! Some gals don't appear to be shy on the surface, but they might be when it comes to a one-on-one relationship with the opposite sex.

All I know is that all the signs seem good except for the phone thing.... Hang in there, continue to show interest, but don't smother her.... Keep doing what you're already doing, and try to show that you respect her situation (whatever that situation might be, LOL). She will figure things out soon enough, and you'll start getting your answers soon enough as she begins to trust you and open up more to you.

Keep us posted. Good luck!

The Gambler
 

alxrose04

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I wouldn't see it as anything other than a speed bump. You got the green light from the best friend so you could almost do no wrong. Stay persistent with it. Next time you talk to her, try to mention the idea of you two or a group of friends going out to do something. Then ask for her number to let her know about the details later. That way, she has a reason to justify it and you could build from there. Good lucks.
 
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