How to proceed from here

[zorg198]

Hello,

I didn't know what kind of title i should put because i have no idea how to write it.

Here's the situation,

I'm dating & talking with a 25 years old , she's learning for a degree in a school 1 hour far from me. she's renting an appartment there so she's staying there and on the weekends she comes back. we meet only on Friday. during the week we talk and she calls me and we discuss and so on.... it came to a situation she cant go to sleep unless she hear my voice.

I have a problem , she said when i am with her i hold myself and also she said i'm too much programmed in my mind. the question is what you guys can advice me next time i see her ? the biggest issue i have is i don't have a place on my own so we cant go to my place ( i'm searching for an appartment ) so its a problem, she said it . what should i do?

 

[DonJuanit0]

Hello,

I didn't know what kind of title i should put because i have no idea how to write it.

Here's the situation,

I'm dating & talking with a 25 years old , she's learning for a degree in a school 1 hour far from me. she's renting an appartment there so she's staying there and on the weekends she comes back. we meet only on Friday. during the week we talk and she calls me and we discuss and so on.... it came to a situation she cant go to sleep unless she hear my voice.

I have a problem , she said when i am with her i hold myself and also she said i'm too much programmed in my mind. the question is what you guys can advice me next time i see her ? the biggest issue i have is i don't have a place on my own so we cant go to my place ( i'm searching for an appartment ) so its a problem, she said it . what should i do?

relax, enjoy, have fun!

 

[zorg198]

I'm relaxed , the problem is she's not. she says i need to be more loose when i am with her, what she mean by that?

 

[DonJuanit0]

I'm relaxed , the problem is she's not. she says i need to be more loose when i am with her, what she mean by that?

Could mean many things.

She could actually mean that you are not loose enough and you need to relax.

She may want you to be more emotional, show her more, tell her more etc.


Is your interest level same as hers? Maybe there's a difference and she tries to bring you to her level by saying you need to relax and sink in the LTR.

Can't be 100% sure and I maybe be wrong, that's what I would think!

 

[zorg198]

Hello,

So i talked with this girl today , i told her i want to see her tonight. she agreed . the problem is we already going to a movie on Friday. isn't this too much to see eachother twice a week? how should i blow her off in good term?

 

[DonJuanit0]

Hello,

So i talked with this girl today , i told her i want to see her tonight. she agreed . the problem is we already going to a movie on Friday. isn't this too much to see eachother twice a week? how should i blow her off in good term?

Over thinking there mate! It's ok!

I do agree that we should think before we act and bla bla bla, but over thinking is bad and I can see 2 reasons:

1) We will act wrong! We might think we are doing it right but no, why would it be bad if you see her 2 times? Would you see it as bad? You said you are dating, it's not like you are on your first dates, so you don't need to fear of coming off as desperate because you met twice!

2) Our own mental health! Over thinking is pretty much a form of Oneitis! We keep thinking about this or that or whatever comes in mind and don't realise how simple a situation might be!

Quit over thinking!

 

[Nickface]

OP If she agreed to see you tonight, then go for it. She wouldn't say yes if she wasn't interested believe me. There's nothing wrong with seeing a chick twice a week. In fact, I encourage to try to keep it that way if possible. You said your going to a movie on Friday, so today spend some time today talking and eating. Bring her for some frozen yogurt.(chicks love creamy delights)

Do not bring up anything about Friday! Let her bring up Fridays date and then see if she's up for it or not. If she doesn't say anything about it, then you can take that as a good sign for Friday.(that is if you want to continue with her)

Good luck!

 

[zorg198]

So today i'm going with her to the movies... my question to you guys, what to do next? i mean any good ideas? im reading the art of kino. its not that we don't kiss and touch each other and so on.. but i want to make her hot!!