"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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TheBaconator

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Yesterday my building had a blackout and I ended up going outside and meeting some girl who lives in my building but was stranded as she lived on 21st floor and there were no lights in stairs.

So long story short we talked and killed about an hour n a half waiting for lights to come back on, which they did but elevators didn't work. She was scared to walk up the stairs alone so I walked her halfway, but told her she had to come over for dinner if I did it. She agreed and told me she would come by to return a flashlight I let her hang on to tonite. Should I bring up the dinner thing as soon as she comes over, should I invite her in?

Lil more background, this girl is 23 and i'm 21, and she has a BF, although she didn't mention him at all except when I asked her if she drive, she told me no but her BF does. She also has a kid, so I know shes fckin. Does it sound like I have a shot here?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Telos

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TheBaconator said:
Yesterday my building had a blackout and I ended up going outside and meeting some girl who lives in my building but was stranded as she lived on 21st floor and there were no lights in stairs.

So long story short we talked and killed about an hour n a half waiting for lights to come back on, which they did but elevators didn't work. She was scared to walk up the stairs alone so I walked her halfway, but told her she had to come over for dinner if I did it. She agreed and told me she would come by to return a flashlight I let her hang on to tonite. Should I bring up the dinner thing as soon as she comes over, should I invite her in?

Lil more background, this girl is 23 and i'm 21, and she has a BF, although she didn't mention him at all except when I asked her if she drive, she told me no but her BF does. She also has a kid, so I know shes fckin. Does it sound like I have a shot here?
If you have solid game, you are in. Was her returning the flashlight supposed to be on the same night as the dinner she accepted to? It sounds like she's already trying to back out by diminishing your dinner offer to just returning the flashlight, so I would recommend sending her a text telling her something like "You better like Chinese (or whatever) food" to communicate your expectations of her staying beyond a simple meeting at your front door.

Feel out her IL when she shows up, if you think there is enough, invite her in for dinner and a movie or take her out and grab a couple drinks at a bar. At the end of the night isolate and make a move after a healthy amount of kino, and hope you don't hit resistance.
 

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We didn't set a date for having dinner, so I guess inviting her for some dinner tonight is the right move. She was a bit resistant to the dinner idea at first, probably cuz she just met me, and gave some signs of low interest by saying "can't you just walk me up a little" to which I replied "ok you can just come to dinner for a little". I may have come off a bit desperate or AFCish.

So not sure if she's interested, but she did give me one noticable IOI. When talking about returning the light she wrote down my apartment number and asked what time to come by. I told her the night and then figured i'd call her when i'm home so I ask for her number soley to call her and tell her when I was home. She gives me the number without hesitation, but says the phone is turned off for now and should be back soon. So I think this has to be IOI otherwise why bother giving me the number for furture reference?
 
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