How to play this one...??

[epic_barrels]

So I have been banging this 23 y/o hb9 for over a month now, trying to play it cool, spin plates, and avoid oneits as best I can.

This girl spends lots of time with me and I can tell she really likes me. Her actions are if we ae bf/gf most of the time..At the same time, she says things like "we are just friends...I am not looking for anything serious..etc"

meanwhile she chases me, sleeps with me everytime I see her, and treats me awesome..we have a very deep connection..go surfing, skiing, hiking..concerts..etc. Everytime i see her, i show her a great time and f her like nobody has before (according to her)

so i know look at her actions and not words...it just pisses me off when she introduces me as "her friend"...

i think she is a keeper and i dont want to go afc on her..im not going to say anything and continue doing what I am doing..

have any of you been in this situation before??? thoughts are appreciated

 

[Lord Sidious]

First of all:

- What are your intentions with her? Simply bang her? Spend a good time? Be her boyfriend? First you should answer that question.

IF you want to be her boyfriend, do things in that way. My idea is that you are just spending a good time together. If that is happening is perfectly normal for her to introduce you as her friend.

I once had a situation in wich I had a girlfriend that introduced me to other people as a friend. Guess what? Drop her in blink of an eye.

So, bro, see what you really want with her. Then, after knowing the answer to your question, act according your wish.


Take care.

 

[epic_barrels]

First of all:

- What are your intentions with her? Simply bang her? Spend a good time? Be her boyfriend? First you should answer that question.

IF you want to be her boyfriend, do things in that way. My idea is that you are just spending a good time together. If that is happening is perfectly normal for her to introduce you as her friend.

I once had a situation in wich I had a girlfriend that introduced me to other people as a friend. Guess what? Drop her in blink of an eye.

So, bro, see what you really want with her. Then, after knowing the answer to your question, act according your wish.


Take care.

well lets just say i would be cool to escalate things to a more serious level..what i dont want to do is scare her off..my plan is to keep showing her a good time and keep spinning plates..hopefully when she starts realizing i have other options..she will bring up getting more serious..if not, im still banging a hb with no strings attached..

 

[Kailex]

If you want something more serious, then what's wrong with escalating?

If you scare her away, then she wasn't good for you anyway.

The thing I see here is that you are giving her relationship benefits without an actual relationship and it's benefiting HER. I really hope you aren't reacting whenever she introduces you as her friend. Yes, her actions say one thing while her words mean others... but she's introducing you to the world as a buddy. If you don't want that... then escalate.

If you all you want to do is bang, then who cares?

And it sounds like you are already on the road to a oneitis because of the talk about "scaring her away". So what if you do? You said you are spinning plates right? Then that means you can just pull someone off the bench for her.

I wouldn't worry too much, but it already sounds like you are semi-hungup on her.

Again, don't "tell" her what you want... show her. And if she cuts loose, it's her loss and you move on.

 

[Rampage1]

If you really want her to be your gf keep fuking her and doing the stuff you are doing. Eventually she will cave and demand exclusivity, you could also test her out by showing that other girls are interested...

 

[epic_barrels]

If you really want her to be your gf keep fuking her and doing the stuff you are doing. Eventually she will cave and demand exclusivity, you could also test her out by showing that other girls are interested...

thats my plan..and staying a bit mysterious..maybe pulling back a little
I play it off really cool when she says sh.t like this. I have a good situation right here..and i have other girls chasing me. Im meeting one tonight. Even though i really like this one, if she walks, oh well. her loss

i have been burned in the past trying to escalate a fb situation.

 

[lakeshore]

She obviously has a lot of fun with you and loves it BUT your uneasiness (which is why you came here) tells me something is missing.

If a girl is sleeping with you more than once but says "we're just friends" something is wrong. She may have issues. Quality girls don't do that.

I've been involved in a similar situation.

 

[kingsam]

thats my plan..and staying a bit mysterious..maybe pulling back a little
I play it off really cool when she says sh.t like this. I have a good situation right here..and i have other girls chasing me. Im meeting one tonight. Even though i really like this one, if she walks, oh well. her loss

i have been burned in the past trying to escalate a fb situation.

dude you've only been with her for a month thats nothing.... she should bring up exclusivity ( in some form) after a while....if she hasnt changed her tune after 3 months maybe then you have an issue...

keep showing (and giving) her a good time (and let her bring up exclusivity- she may just have a "slower pace" than most girls - infact many many girls go into relationships way too fast)

 

[DonGorgon]

nothing to worry about... just be her friend until you time is up then move on...lol