HI,
new here...wanted to ask a bit of advice...here's some background
Known this girl for almost a year (i know what you're already thinking... "A YEAR?!?!?")
However because we have different groups of friends i only actually get to see her about once every 3 months!! The first 6
months of this time i was seeing someone, and then the 3 months after that ended, SHE was seeing someone. So there has only really been a few months where we have both been single!
Anyway we've always got on really well - a lot of banter between us (chemistry) and its fairly obvious that it's flirty.
There has always been a bit of playful kino between us - just gentle hitting and stuff whilst teasing - you know the stuff.
A few months ago we were at the pub with a group of mutual friends, and i needed someone to text me at the weekend to remind me about something...i looked to all my friends who all have my number already, but instead this girl jumps in and says "i'll do it", grabs my phone, puts her number in, and calls her phone.
I obviously take this as a good sign - she wants me to have her number.
So a few days later i test the water with a bit of C+F texting...and she seems to enjoy it, so i ask her when she is gonna be available to go out for a drink. Her reply "Whenever!!!!", which again i take as a good thing. So i specify a day, and she then says "oooh i kinda maybe already have a sort of date that day, sorry hun". I take this as a knock back, and tell her maybe some other time then, and i leave it at that.
I don't see her for 3 months, and pretty much forget about her, even tho we send a couple of texts now and then.
An example of some of these C+F texts:
me - so you coming out to the pub on Friday then?
her - im going out with my flatmates on Friday so i wont be able to make it...but il definately see you soon!
me - s'ok i didn't wanna see you anyway
her - me neither, you going is what put me off...can't stand your company...you're so boring (hee hee hee)
me - no seriously, i meant to send it to another girl in my phone with your name! When you took a few hours to reply i figured i'd got away with it!!
her - Oi Cheeky!!
me - You love it really...
There is plenty of good banter like this between us.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago, and i hadn't seen her for 3 months...went out into town and saw one of our mutual friends, who said she'd be down shortly. I went up to my buddies, and we sat drinking, and suddenly this girl appeared...she had come
up AS SOON as she got to the bar, leaving her friends downstairs. She didnt even have a drink yet. She came up and started the banter between us immediately, hitting me playfully and saying "ah you missed me really i know you did"
She goes back downstairs, and eventually we go to leave so i pop down to see what her plans are. Whilst talking, her friend
says to me "sorry i don't even know who you are....OOOohhhh, are YOU Andy??"
Her friend has never met me before, so i have no idea why she would know my name unless i've been talked about!
Its a tricky situation for me - i hardly ever get to see her, but when i do there is this massive chemistry between us. But the one time i have asked her for drinks, i've felt like she has knocked me back! My female friends says she was just playing it hard to get, and that its obvious she is into me!
The other signs are obviously good (the phone number thing, the friend knowing my name, the banter, etc).
I don't think i am too far into the 'friends zone' yet because i get to see her so rarely, so i think there is still the chemistry there as there was originally.
I should also add that during this time i have been out meeting and dating other women. But this one is always one who gets
me fired up when i see her. Looks - 8, personality - 9, so she is a really tough case!!
Any thoughts?
Cheers
Andy
ps - GREAT site...just found it recently and been readigng over all the interesting posts!
new here...wanted to ask a bit of advice...here's some background
Known this girl for almost a year (i know what you're already thinking... "A YEAR?!?!?")
However because we have different groups of friends i only actually get to see her about once every 3 months!! The first 6
months of this time i was seeing someone, and then the 3 months after that ended, SHE was seeing someone. So there has only really been a few months where we have both been single!
Anyway we've always got on really well - a lot of banter between us (chemistry) and its fairly obvious that it's flirty.
There has always been a bit of playful kino between us - just gentle hitting and stuff whilst teasing - you know the stuff.
A few months ago we were at the pub with a group of mutual friends, and i needed someone to text me at the weekend to remind me about something...i looked to all my friends who all have my number already, but instead this girl jumps in and says "i'll do it", grabs my phone, puts her number in, and calls her phone.
I obviously take this as a good sign - she wants me to have her number.
So a few days later i test the water with a bit of C+F texting...and she seems to enjoy it, so i ask her when she is gonna be available to go out for a drink. Her reply "Whenever!!!!", which again i take as a good thing. So i specify a day, and she then says "oooh i kinda maybe already have a sort of date that day, sorry hun". I take this as a knock back, and tell her maybe some other time then, and i leave it at that.
I don't see her for 3 months, and pretty much forget about her, even tho we send a couple of texts now and then.
An example of some of these C+F texts:
me - so you coming out to the pub on Friday then?
her - im going out with my flatmates on Friday so i wont be able to make it...but il definately see you soon!
me - s'ok i didn't wanna see you anyway
her - me neither, you going is what put me off...can't stand your company...you're so boring (hee hee hee)
me - no seriously, i meant to send it to another girl in my phone with your name! When you took a few hours to reply i figured i'd got away with it!!
her - Oi Cheeky!!
me - You love it really...
There is plenty of good banter like this between us.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago, and i hadn't seen her for 3 months...went out into town and saw one of our mutual friends, who said she'd be down shortly. I went up to my buddies, and we sat drinking, and suddenly this girl appeared...she had come
up AS SOON as she got to the bar, leaving her friends downstairs. She didnt even have a drink yet. She came up and started the banter between us immediately, hitting me playfully and saying "ah you missed me really i know you did"
She goes back downstairs, and eventually we go to leave so i pop down to see what her plans are. Whilst talking, her friend
says to me "sorry i don't even know who you are....OOOohhhh, are YOU Andy??"
Her friend has never met me before, so i have no idea why she would know my name unless i've been talked about!
Its a tricky situation for me - i hardly ever get to see her, but when i do there is this massive chemistry between us. But the one time i have asked her for drinks, i've felt like she has knocked me back! My female friends says she was just playing it hard to get, and that its obvious she is into me!
The other signs are obviously good (the phone number thing, the friend knowing my name, the banter, etc).
I don't think i am too far into the 'friends zone' yet because i get to see her so rarely, so i think there is still the chemistry there as there was originally.
I should also add that during this time i have been out meeting and dating other women. But this one is always one who gets
me fired up when i see her. Looks - 8, personality - 9, so she is a really tough case!!
Any thoughts?
Cheers
Andy
ps - GREAT site...just found it recently and been readigng over all the interesting posts!