How to open in this situation?

[randomshinichi]

OK. You're sitting in a pasta shop. In front, two chicks stop at the stall in front of this pasta shop to get some ice cream. The 9/10 locks eyes with you, 3 separate times.

How in the world can you get up from your seat, leave your food, go over and talk to the chick and get her contact, without alienating her friend (who is going to spend only 20 seconds tops buying her own ice cream) and looking kinda... I don't know, wouldn't this come off as desperate? Should one even approach in such a situation?

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Why would you look desperate for approaching?

The overall mentality of this main board needs to change!

You guys are sooooo scared and controlled by your fear!

If a girl locks eyes with you that's an invitation.

If you chose to not do anything that's your fault.

If I was in the situation I would simply approach, sit down at the table and chat both of them up.

Of course you would give her friend some attention to, so you can disarm her. Then focus on the target and see what happens.

Don't overanalyze a simple situation.








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[randomshinichi]

They weren't at a table. They were standing outside the shop. Does this change anything?

 

[Pimp-sicle]

They weren't at a table. They were standing outside the shop. Does this change anything?

Of course not! She locked eyes with you 3 times and your wondering if you will look desperate?

Think about that for a second.


Capitalize on your opportunity because most of the time you don't get a second chance.








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[PrettyBoyAJ]

I don't love em, I don't chase em I duck em

I wouldn't do sh!t. I wouldn't get up and approach her. That's thirsty as hell if you ask me. What I would have done is to tell her to come to you.

What kind of thirsty dude is going to put his fork and food down and go across a restaurant to talk to a female because she looked at him. It's all about the frame playboy. If she was interested she would have came to you no problem.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

What kind of thirsty dude is going to put his fork and food down and go across a restaurant to talk to a female because she looked at him. It's all about the frame playboy. If she was interested she would have came to you no problem.

Your a smart dude, but your def wrong here. Women give you subtle cues that they are interested and it is always the man's job to approach.

You talk about the frame, how does the girl approaching you set the frame properly?? I mean I'm not saying a girl approaching you is bad, but if this dude is getting eye phucked like that, its his job to handle his business.

Different ways to skin a cat, but what you gotta understand AJ is not every dude gets approached simply because of their outer appearance.






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[DavenJuan]

I wouldn't do sh!t. I wouldn't get up and approach her. That's thirsty as hell if you ask me. What I would have done is to tell her to come to you.

What kind of thirsty dude is going to put his fork and food down and go across a restaurant to talk to a female because she looked at him. It's all about the frame playboy. If she was interested she would have came to you no problem.

I disagree...

I cant see her approaching him "setting the frame" in a positive direction for him. I was victim of this for many years...

I ALWAYS waited for the girl to approach me. ALWAYS.. do you have any idea how many women I have missed out on because of this. it also gives the wrong impression in certain situations.

If you want to know WHAT to do in situations like this for future reference.. try not to talk YOURSELF out of approaching. let your natural instincts take over. The more you start THINKING what to do and what to say, youve talked yourself out of the approach all together.

Rando....

there is nothing wrong with being blunt and honest with the girls at the ice cream shop. Get up and walk over to them and let her know that you didnt want this opportunity to pass and wanted to introduce yourself. I wouldve even made a comment about leaving your food over at the table and now she is obligated to come sit down with you/give number/etc because your food is getting cold.

My impression, is that if you are asking us this question, you are probably uncomfortable in most situations like this. over thinking what you MAY look like by approaching. if this is the case, ask yourself. what does it look like when she KNOWS that you are aware shes interested, yet do NOTHING....??

 

[TopGun2000]

just do it. worst case losing face is better than missing out on a good opportunity

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Maybe yall are right. I would think it's thirsty but then again I don't have the best solo game on the forum. Sometimes you need to go outside your comfort zone for the better.

Me personally, I'd just wave her to come to me. But thinking on it, maybe that's lazy macking.