"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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how to not see each other all the time

jigga23

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So i basically just got done fighting with this girl cause she said we were spending too much time together which was very true, basically everyday for a month straight. She would be the one calling me all the time though i barley would ask her to come over. Anyways whats the best set up to have so we dont get sick of each other? I didnt see her this sat (she was still irratated over our fight) or sun i was out of town and saw her real fast today to get something she had of mine that i needed for tomorrow. she called up today and was like im giong to sleep at my house today and i said thats fine its ok. Should i just tell her we should sleep together like wed-sunday or just say we need ot take 2 nights a week off?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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hmm

this is my first post but experience tells me what she really means I am losing interest. Seeing her every day shows her that she is the center of your world. her being the center of her world means she has the control. thats how i see it. first post so i have no cred.
 

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well it can mean let me do my own thing then things will be fine. it can mean a bunch of stuff. i know when i take a break i feel relieved but i still have interest in the girl. This stuff is at the super early stages and we started off sprinting by haning out everyday. ive done both hung out all the time and hung out a couple days a week. when ive hung out everyday in the beginning they feel smothered. but if you back the fvck off things should be ok everybody needs a break sometimes come on.
 

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If the relationship turned out in such a way that she's giving you directions about the frequency of your dates, you never controlled the frame in this relationship.

She is (and has always been) the captain and my guess is that she'll be the one who'll put you aside when a man who could control the frame enters her life.

Don't make ridiculous schedules like seeing her Wed/Sun and fvcking her Sat/Tues...

Try to understand WHY YOU didn't tell her you were spending too much time together...

YOU are supposed to be in the driver's seat, not her.
 

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jigga23 said:
Should i just tell her we should sleep together like wed-sunday or just say we need ot take 2 nights a week off?
LOL. Yeah maybe hold off on telling her when you are going to sleep together.

I would love to tell my gf "You are going to sleep with me on Friday night 11:45 pm, Sat morning at 1:00 am, and Monday night at 10:30 pm."
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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