"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to not give a fvck, and not jump into conclusions

JdelaSilviera

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I will give two pieces of advice for those who still don´t know this, wich are very important and helpful to me.

First, you shouldn´t give a fvck about women, they are far from perfect... that hot chick you check in the middle of the beach, might have a huge birth mark in the middle of her ass... she is not that great. Also remember that even if you get into a relationship with her, you will realize that many things about her will get on your nerves, and that she will bore you to death... also that confident chick you thought she was...it isn´t all that.

Second, don´t jump into conclusions about whether a girl likes you that fast. I roll my eyes,every time I see a "next" advice with so little information given.

Remember that women are taught to be hard to get, they are told to rarely return phone calls, to cancel dates at last minute etc... just check "the rules" on wikipedia...
Many times the chick that takes hours (or days) to return you the phone call, is the one that is really interested in you.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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bilboteabaggins

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so when a broad flakes on me just one time I shouldn't tell her to fvck off? oops I thought I was the prize
 

JdelaSilviera

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You may well tell her to fvck off, just keep in mind you could lose an interested girl.

There are no rules on this, so just use your commonsense. She could flake in order to make you want her more, because she find you the prize...
 

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If a girl is interested in you, she will show it. If you think otherwise, you're lying to yourself. That's not a rule, it's human nature.

A small number of women do play hard to get but you can never tell for sure when a girl is playing hard to get, so it's dangerous territory and usually a waste of time. And even if you get a girl by chasing her, she won't respect you much so it's a lose-lose situation chasing these types of girls. If a girl is taking too long to respond to you, move onnnnnn. There are plenty out there who would be happier to be with you.

There are no real rules when it comes to women. The reason why so many guys on internet sites like this one are struggling is because they try to follow rules that some dude who are totally different from them set up.

The reason why some guys succeed with women after working with a dating coach has nothing to do with the coaching. It's all because he gained confidence to approach more women. The more girls you approach, the more action you will get. It's a numbers' game.


Just use your instincts and common sense.
 

JdelaSilviera

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Well, I have to disagree.... many times I was baffled to know that some chick was into me, because it was not obvious at all! . Of course that girls that show interest are easy to spot...obvious.

But women are much more afraid of rejection, being seen as sluts etc...
So it´s not a matter of wishful thinking, if she flakes it still could be either way...

Brownrice said:
If a girl is interested in you, she will show it. If you think otherwise, you're lying to yourself. That's not a rule, it's human nature.



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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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