how to not get attached

[Triangulo]

How do you guys avoid getting attached to a girl? I have had bad experiences regarding this. I have gotten hurt before , and i wish i didnt get attached too easily. Since my past couple relationships (which i got hurt), i have however, learned from the not so pleasant experiences. I was just curious what do you guys do to not like a girl too much?
How do you remind yourself that most women are evil and that everything is a game?

 

[Don_Marko]

Just make sure to keep in mind that there's like a billion of women on this planet, some good some bad some ugly, but all unique, however not all women are evil!!! Don't ever think that. Women are beautiful bro, without them life would suck. Anyways mathematically speaking odds are so badly against you finding your ideal woman, that's why it's okay to mess around. So what I recommend is that you have a rotation of women, 2-3 that you are close to and always 6-7 prospects on the side. The more girls you have around you, less special they become to you as they have to share your attention (similar example... parents who have one kid get so attached to him that they often spoil him and he always gets his way, but if that little boy has brothers all of a sudden he has to compete for his parents attention and love, and does not always gets his way). Similar with this, once you have more chicks there's less chance you will get attached to only one

 

[Grey Fox]

There is a slight difference to attachment and the dreaded oneitis.
Attachment in a relationship, especially sex is natural. This is due to attraction, emotions and bio chemical reactions. When you are attached to something you know it, but that attachment does not completely cloud your judgement.

Oneitis is when you are blinded by sex, emotion and your d!ck, along with the bio chemical rush that comes from being infatuated with someone. At this point this is when you start to think foolish thoughts of extremely long term plans, deepening the relationship and taking her home to meet the folks, just after the first date.

What you want to aviod is getting oneitis, that will screw with you in ways I shutter to remember. The best way to do it is base your actions on logic. If you are doing something to satisfy a wild emotional urge, its most certainly a bad idea. I once had serious oneitis. It was a bad time for me and I had to keep telling myself that I broke it off for good reasons. So like a lot of guys I dragged my butt here, just by chance really and read the stuff here. There are plenty of posts out there from great and small on all these ways to ease the feeling of oneitis. The only way to be immune to it is when you actually face it and deal with all the emotions but make a desicion that you will feel much better by doing the hard thing of breaking off the oneitis. You date other gals, resist the urges to fall back into the old ways and one day it just goes away. Of course banging different girls helps speed that up in ways you wouldn't believe.

So look face your attachment or if it is that bad your oneitis. Just get ready for a hard road, but you know deep down when an attachment has gone to far and is blinding you. Everyone does really some just give in. When you choose to fight it and break the attachment no matter how hard you become stronger for it, and more confident. What more could a DJ ask?

-Grey Fox

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

I just don't get feelings and hang way too much with a girl.

 

[DEKKA]

feel her boobies

 

[Befuddled]

i have to sympathize, cause i too experience the same damn thing.... it's so annoying.

It's like attachment, jealousy, anger, yearning....mixed into one.....all negative.

I usually become friends with girls i dont see any future with.

I have a theory.... i guess it's because men , by nature, are competitive, and when you see your not winning her, it's a total let down that makes you want her even more, creating 'attachment'.

I dont experience feelings of 'attachment' if the 'breakup' is on my terms. For example, i hooked up with this girl, and she n me were getting on preety well...nothign very serious, but definately mutual attraction. Then all-of-a-sudden, i find out she slept with another friend of mine... that made me feel attachment, jealousy, anger, yearning, etc, and i wanted to keep trying to get back with her, id hang out with her, try and flirt,etc.... but i guess the feelings showed, and it didnt work.....and im kina glad, cause shes quite the village bicycle.

Many ppl will tell you, 'time' will help you get over it. I think the way i get over it, is when i find aother girl to hook up with ....and the cycle continuew .

Cheers

 

[RedKnight04]

Everyone experiences that, its natural!

Read the thread about ONEITIS that is under my signature. It helped me alot. The basic is just go out with your friends, always stay active in your own life.

I would always get a girl. Lay some C+F on her, have a great time, open doors for her after I bust on her, KINO, then she would have a high IL and then everything would go downhill because I CALLED HER WAY TO MUCH!!

Its a trap. So hold your ground and stay the challenge that she loves.

 

[Titus]

Oneitis=small choice of women.

When do you have an "i don't care about women" or "i don't fall in love with women easily" attitude?
Easy

When you are spoiled as far as women go. When you have enough of them to choose from to become picky... so you don't stick like glue to the first one that you have a chance with.


Or in the immortal words of that whatshisname Jackass MTV idiot:

"Monogamy is for people who can't get chicks."

 

[Cheiradawg]

**** other girls

 

[Austin Allegro]

1. See lots of other women.

2. Tip from Silverwex: think back to your last dose of oneitis. Do you still feel the same way about her? Probably not. You'll get over this one soon as well.

 

[rapsta]

attachment blows my friend. yeah its nice to feel a little love, but fvck that. get other girls. don't speak to her on the phone every day. don't go all emotional. treat her like a dog, dont show too much respect. I lose all my respect to a girl after i've fvcked her on the first date. she ain't nothing but a bytch to me. I cant fall in love with a girl that gives it up that quick, even if she was a virgin before i hit it.
there are too many women to get attached at a young age, too little time as well.
meet new people, talk to many girls, everywhere.
yeah its nice to spend time with an attached girlfriend and do things, but i've got friends to spend time with. peace out