Actually when it comes to looks I think I am ok. I have had girls complementing me about my looks my whole life. I was younger I never took advantage of it because I was so insecure I refused to believe it, I always thought they were just being nice.
I don’t really need to workout more, I already workout four times a week I have always been athletic. My problem is 100% mental. I am usually stuck in the friend zone because it going sexual is a huge obstacle for me, I .think I have issues with making myself vulnerable.
I couldn't say that I never had success with women because that would imply that I actually tried, which I have never done !
Five months ago, I decided to approach girls on the street but I only approached three girls. The first one responded really well but after a while I had no idea where to go with it so I just left, the second one was totally into me but she was a bit too young for me, It didn’t go to well with the third one.
For some reason, instead of keeping on approaching women I reverted to my old habit of doing nothing but yesterday I decided to give it a shot again.
I went to a club and at first I couldn’t approach any woman but after a while, I realized that I had to act first and think after. I had no pickup line in my mind but I came up with a crappy one (at this point I don't care about being smooth) so I approached a group of girls, I told them this ridiculous line then we talked for 5-6min then they had to join another group of girls.
I obviously didn't go anywhere with them but what I noticed is that for years I have been anxious about approaching women because I was anticipating a fear that was never there in the first place.
I have noticed that every single time I have approached women, I have never felt any fear whatsoever while I was talking to them. I realized that I feared something that was never there.
I honestly believe I can get better at this, and at least try but the hardest part will be to commit myself to approach women regularly.
Ps : What is wrong with contacting in Facebook girls you have met in real life ? I mean next week I will meet with this girl that I like, I don’t expect much but that’s something.
