Well it seems to me i am very eh emotionally unstable? I get pissed off at the littlest things girls do, and aggravated at little things like seeing ex gfs crap like that. I mean this one girl played me a bit i agree, but she wants to be my firend now.(i like her still). So being her friend she easily pisses me off. So i basically told her not to message me anymore because she drives me nuts. I rather not have to do this **** , but i cant seem to just get the "i dont care" aspect going for me.
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How to not care?
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-HPNOTIQ-
Master Don Juan
You've got the case of one-itis for the ex.
The reason she still wants to "be your friend" is so she can have you as an emotional tampon when all the other guys who are f*cking her aren't talking to her about life, roses, and candy canes....that's where you come in as the "FRIEND"
And, the reason you are still wanting to be with her, even if its only as a "FRIEND" is because you one day hope that by being there for her emotionally, talking to her, picking her up from school and work -- that in the end of all these good deeds, she'll realize how great you are and come running back to you with open arms.
REALITY CHECK BRO..
There is a reason why you guys broke up....stick with that reason and move on. Yes, second chances with the ex do happen. I've seen the second time workout better for many of my friends. BUT, the one's who made it work the second time gave it months, even years, of being apart to realize that.
If you just broke up with her, and you're still around as a friend...she'll never truely see what she's lost.
My advice to you is to cut her off completely. YOU HAVE TO DO THIS! Keep busy, make yourself the busiest you can. Go out with old friends, join a gym, train for a marathon, learn how to dance, learn how to speak another language, learn how to cook....make yourself sooo busy that you won't even have time to be her friend.
The beauty part to all of this is that through this process, you will be BETTER than HER in all aspects of your life. And yes, there maybe that 7-8 months that have passed and you'll have dinner with the ex. But look at yourself now. A better man, a less needy man.
Nothing kills attraction more than a person who is needy. Trust me bro. Cut this woman out from your life and get busy! Busy with the things that will make you better. Do it for yourself, not her. When you start caring about yourself again, you'll stop giving a f*ck about her.
The reason she still wants to "be your friend" is so she can have you as an emotional tampon when all the other guys who are f*cking her aren't talking to her about life, roses, and candy canes....that's where you come in as the "FRIEND"
And, the reason you are still wanting to be with her, even if its only as a "FRIEND" is because you one day hope that by being there for her emotionally, talking to her, picking her up from school and work -- that in the end of all these good deeds, she'll realize how great you are and come running back to you with open arms.
REALITY CHECK BRO..
There is a reason why you guys broke up....stick with that reason and move on. Yes, second chances with the ex do happen. I've seen the second time workout better for many of my friends. BUT, the one's who made it work the second time gave it months, even years, of being apart to realize that.
If you just broke up with her, and you're still around as a friend...she'll never truely see what she's lost.
My advice to you is to cut her off completely. YOU HAVE TO DO THIS! Keep busy, make yourself the busiest you can. Go out with old friends, join a gym, train for a marathon, learn how to dance, learn how to speak another language, learn how to cook....make yourself sooo busy that you won't even have time to be her friend.
The beauty part to all of this is that through this process, you will be BETTER than HER in all aspects of your life. And yes, there maybe that 7-8 months that have passed and you'll have dinner with the ex. But look at yourself now. A better man, a less needy man.
Nothing kills attraction more than a person who is needy. Trust me bro. Cut this woman out from your life and get busy! Busy with the things that will make you better. Do it for yourself, not her. When you start caring about yourself again, you'll stop giving a f*ck about her.
I got this compilation for you.
Stop doing what you are doing.
Stop dating her, calling, etc. Stop it now.
End conversation immediately, and act ****y and funny when you talk, play hard to get.
If you will stay needy, you'll pushing it away.
Women detects needyness instantly.
Stop doing what you are doing.
Stop dating her, calling, etc. Stop it now.
End conversation immediately, and act ****y and funny when you talk, play hard to get.
If you will stay needy, you'll pushing it away.
Women detects needyness instantly.
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Well the ex, we were broken up for about 6 mos. I just recently cut of all contanct completely a month ago. its been a month, i see her at school, but i talk to her in no form. She made some immature attempts to get my attention but i blew that off. This other girl i didnt date but fooled around with is the one that wants to be my friend in this weird way. That i stopped talking to her recently also. But i told this girl not to talk to me because she drives me crazy.
-HPNOTIQ-
Master Don Juan
Ok...so I'm trying to follow you.
You still like the ex of 6months...yet, you have no interest in the chick you fooled around with and is always calling you.
hahahahaha..bro...take a step back for a second and see what is going on.
You want nothing to do with the girl who is chasing you because she is being needy. Like I posted earlier..its that neediness that is giving you the low interest level.
Now, with your ex of 6 months...you are correct to drop all contact with her. Screw her. If you start getting that itch to call her back, just think of that needy girl trying to call you. You will be doing the same thing that needy girl is doing to you. And any interest the ex had in you will go down the drain.
Honestly, drop both of these chicks and go bag another. I read a great joke I'd like to pass to you.
Guy goes to a bar and gets a couple drinks. He tells the bartender that he and his wife just divorced, and that he is still very in love with the ex. He asks the bartender if the second time around can work. Bartender looks at the guy and laughs. SURE the second time works -- for the lawyers!!!!
Keep the ex in the past and keep moving forward bro
You still like the ex of 6months...yet, you have no interest in the chick you fooled around with and is always calling you.
hahahahaha..bro...take a step back for a second and see what is going on.
You want nothing to do with the girl who is chasing you because she is being needy. Like I posted earlier..its that neediness that is giving you the low interest level.
Now, with your ex of 6 months...you are correct to drop all contact with her. Screw her. If you start getting that itch to call her back, just think of that needy girl trying to call you. You will be doing the same thing that needy girl is doing to you. And any interest the ex had in you will go down the drain.
Honestly, drop both of these chicks and go bag another. I read a great joke I'd like to pass to you.
Guy goes to a bar and gets a couple drinks. He tells the bartender that he and his wife just divorced, and that he is still very in love with the ex. He asks the bartender if the second time around can work. Bartender looks at the guy and laughs. SURE the second time works -- for the lawyers!!!!
Keep the ex in the past and keep moving forward bro
xhikari
Don Juan
well start networkin more
get to know more women out there....go out casually with em, no need serious dates or whatsoever
then u'll see so many better and worth ur time out there man.
i did this for a quick recovery man, it worked out well for me...and those who were out casually with me....hehehe...well we're hittin it pretty well
get to know more women out there....go out casually with em, no need serious dates or whatsoever
then u'll see so many better and worth ur time out there man.
i did this for a quick recovery man, it worked out well for me...and those who were out casually with me....hehehe...well we're hittin it pretty well
That one was closer lol. Im almost over the ex, i just get annoyed when i see her at school. This other girl plays hard as **** to get iwth me and its annoying so im gonna do what you said and sorta drop her and act ****y and funny. I just wana add a note about the ex, i think the only reason it bothers me to see her, is shes been dating a ex friend of mine for past 6months. But whats funny is this guys a homo......he does drugs and pretends to be an animal..... he wears tails around his house and growls at himself in the mirror, and goes to the mountain near our town to build shacks on other peoples property.....we are all in highschool by the way, me and him are both seniors, so id say hes a little premature...
I agree with HPNOTIQ. The cool thing is that after you get your life back together you'll have no desire to go out with the old g/f. You'll probably have other prospects beating down your door by that time.
Personally, I'd tell her:
'You honestly expect me to give you a sholder to cry on without letting me c<beep>m on your face every once in a while? Sheeee...right... Have a great life.'
-Al
Personally, I'd tell her:
'You honestly expect me to give you a sholder to cry on without letting me c<beep>m on your face every once in a while? Sheeee...right... Have a great life.'
-Al
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for me, the not care thing comes after the thought that, "you know what, so what is this person doesn't like me, there are a million others out there that will, why does this person really matter?"
that works for guys(as friends of course) and girl
that works for guys(as friends of course) and girl
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You gotta stand up for yourself.
But the easiest way to stop caring-thinking so much about other people's ****. Is to start worrying about your own problems and focusing on advancing your own situations.
But the easiest way to stop caring-thinking so much about other people's ****. Is to start worrying about your own problems and focusing on advancing your own situations.