How to not be a weirdo

[everywomanshero]

5 quick tips:

1. The norm of reciprocity: If you are friendly, people will likely be friendly back. If you ignore people, they will probably ignore you also.

2. Forget about 'Amoging': I am just cool to the guys or ignore them. I can't think of anytime in recent history I needed to 'AMOG' anyone. In fact, I rarely concern myself with what other guys are doing at all. If they become annoying, I tend to just ignore them. If I were going to put someone down, I'd probably do it in a funny way and not by trying to get all Rambo on them or use geek mind tricks. It's not you versus the group, it's you with the group.

3. Forget about injustices done to you by hoes, and the rise feminism, yada yada yada: Focusing on subjects that you make you angry, well, only make you angry. The best way to get rid of these faulty beliefs if you to go out with an open mind and collect new evidence.

4. Grow a set: If something isn't a good deal for you, just don't do it. We must learn to be responsible for the situations we put ourselves in. If a man is silly enough to run around co signing loans and marrying any woman who happens along, then it is only a matter of time before he gets burned. If anyone, man woman employer what have you, tries to put me in a situation that I cannot live with if things don't go as planned, I (respectfully) decline. The reason is as much as I care about contributing to others, I also care about myself and as I see it, I am as important as anyone else. I think you should see yourself as being important too.

5. You don't always have to be a big shot: Some guys I've met seem to think that they always have to approved of by every living person or they are a terrible person. This is just horrible posion. There is something to be said for just contributing and being friendly. Oddly enough I find that the best way to be well regarded is to not care about being a big shot at all and just saying what's on your mind rather than some cold, calcuated plan to try impressing people. It's all-too-often very obvious and out of place. Many times I have thought someone was kind of cold toward me, rather than tring to "DHV" myself, I just kept being my friendly self and before long they have come around more often than thought. In one recent case the girl ended up having social anxiety!! You'd never know it to see her with her friends, but if you put her in any situation without people she knows well she clams up. First impressions can be really decieving.

 

[Gubby]

Do these things, then forget about the idea of wierdos. Neither call yourself a wierdo nor call others that. Throw the concept out of your reality. It's the sort of negativity that no-one needs. No-one's life depends on conformity.

 

[MotownMack]

Great post.

And I especially agree with this:

Forget about 'Amoging': I am just cool to the guys or ignore them. I can't think of anytime in recent history I needed to 'AMOG' anyone.

If it's done improperly, not only can make it you look like a jerk, but who needs the hassle? You probably won't have to look more than 10 feet to right or left of that the set with guys in it, to find hotties by themselves. Not worth the hassle in most cases. If there is a list of things I don't necessarily agree with, it's this concept. To me, a real Alpha is not going to concerned with the other males because he has the confidence not to care.

 

[LoneSilver]

I have always been one to give anyone the benefit of the doubt if their first impression seem to be bad or ackward I don't judge them until I know them better if the opportunity is there.

I always hope others give me that same benefit but in many cases they don't because they have been brainwashed into thinking that first impressions are everything and tells all there is to know about the person which is a farce.

LoneSilver

 

[Enryu]

Yeah never ever ignore a women she might find you socially accepted or anything of that
Always go for the hot hb9/10 and tell her how much you love her