How to not be a "MrConfidence"

[elmnick]

I have a fear that I'm going to end up like MrConfidence, constantly making new resolutions and then making excuses.
I'm probably pretty much in the same boat as him, I'm a reasonable guy with hobbies not some sociopath, I'm quite quiet, I have friends at school but it seems like the friends I have are happy to hang out at school, but wouldn't invite me to hang out out of school and I seem to have read a lot but not done much to improve myself
As I said I do want to improve and not end up a bitter time waster like MrConfidence and I'm sure there are many in the same boat as me.
What is the most useful simple advice you would give to me or someone like MrConfidence.

btw, I am not some new username for MrConfidence, I've just been reading his threads and can relate to them

 

[RestoretheROAR84]

Just don't make excuses, if you set a goal and don't reach it there is no excuse that will get you to the goal, you either do it or you don't. What exactly are you trying to improve?

 

[ElStud]

Yeah uh... I don't know if you know or not, but this is MrConfidence. I've changed a ton since then.

 

[theguy351]

dont make excuses and go for it, you only live once

 

[elmnick]

ElStud, I didn't know that no, and you seem to be making some progress and actually doing something which is more than I am currently doing so I respect you for that, obviously you're not a "Don Juan" - whatever that means - yet, but I'd appreciate you're advice

also any advice from Wescott would be appreciated, and anyone else who has actually made a change from a similar situation

 

[ElStud]

It's cool man, just making sure you knew.

 

[Bling]

Yeah uh... I don't know if you know or not, but this is MrConfidence. I've changed a ton since then.

Way to handle that, Viper. He made his point with the thread title, but he used your name five times...


As for the OP, nobody can help you. You can watch all the Rockys in the world and listen to the Eye of the Tiger, you can read all the "you live once" threads, you can read Gunwitch's masculine thread or Pook's Be A Man thread. I could tell you that some fat ass has a hot girlfriend right now. At the end of the day, you have your own inner strength. You have to figure it how to on your own terms. Sorry.

 

[WesCottII]

Man, I made that huge Motherf"cking change, and from your description, you sound exactly like me. Friends at school, but not out? I can totally relate.

What I did, and what you must do, is relate as much pain to being like that as possible. Although it's easy to stay the same, what will you gain?

Do what you've always done, and get what you've always gotten

I hit the gym.....and it became my passion!! I'm a personal trainer now. I became buff, gained a modeling contract and got looks of admiration in the street. This coming from a guy who was voted "ugliest in the class" back when I was 14.

The best advice I can give you is to start with baby steps. Can't approach women in the street? Approach them when they're working in the stores! They're bored and they'll gladly talk to you.

For me, it was all about looking tp the future. For a small skinny guy, who was picked on, ignored by women and laughed at by the blokes......picturing me in the future, with a stunning, amazing women on my arm, whilst I was walking to my porsche, dressed in my bespoke suit.....THAT became my reason for improving. Is that picture worse than you in a 9-5 job, with an average body, and average women?

You invest small now, you get the big payoff in the future. Yes, playing computer games is more fun than going to the gym now....but in a couple years time, when you got women hanging off your "fantastic" arms.....it doesn't compare.

I'm sorry for rambling....if there's anything more specific, please, don't hesitate to ask.

Tom

 

[TheVirtualMind]

Dude, the thread title alone makes this hilarious!

Everything Wescott said is true. You just gotta start off small and keep investing in yourself and you will notice a BIG change.

Also remember...No excuses. There should be no reason not to try your best all the time.

 

[jesusrules]

If I could have went back in time this is what I would do. Set goals, go to a local store some where, where chicks work at. like the grocery store start a little convo with them, stuff like how was your day? did you have a good weekend. stuff like that, if you do things like that, it will make you more confident I believe.

 

[Plec07]

Wescott's got you pretty much covered. Just remember small steps and then you won't need excuses for failures. Keep your head in reality. If you fail something it is your fault. Don't throw the blame onto something else or someone else. You gotta learn to take responsibility for your mistakes.

 

[ElStud]

Way to handle that, Viper. He made his point with the thread title, but he used your name five times...


As for the OP, nobody can help you. You can watch all the Rockys in the world and listen to the Eye of the Tiger, you can read all the "you live once" threads, you can read Gunwitch's masculine thread or Pook's Be A Man thread. I could tell you that some fat ass has a hot girlfriend right now. At the end of the day, you have your own inner strength. You have to figure it how to on your own terms. Sorry.

Flaming me makes you feel good doesn't it? Oh well, not my problem.

 

[elmnick]

cheers everyone,
and remember "Winning an argument on the internet is like winning the special olympics, even if you win you are still a retard!"
no offense to any disabled people or anything, be nice for christs sake

 

[ElStud]

Believe me, I'm trying dude.

 

[yungahdubz]

Yeah, i need help on that too. I mean, I've got loads of friends at school i hang around with, and I'm pretty popular but I'm never invited to go to things? Dont get me wrong i go out and that with people from my estate but would be cool to go out with ma mates from school as well. Any tips/ideas?

Sorry for kinda robbing your thread btw =]

 

[WesCottII]

Yeah, i need help on that too. I mean, I've got loads of friends at school i hang around with, and I'm pretty popular but I'm never invited to go to things? Dont get me wrong i go out and that with people from my estate but would be cool to go out with ma mates from school as well. Any tips/ideas?

Sorry for kinda robbing your thread btw =]

Thing is you're falling into the trap I did. If you're not being invited out after school, you're not popular. Make new friends, or otherwise, invite THEM out.