How to navigate texting games?

[Depressedguy]

So I've been texting this girl for some time now and it has been going very well. It went from neutral conversation to **** tests to flirty to making plans(didn't happen because I'm out of town) But after all of that, we were talking about some random stuff and she all of a sudden went silent on me and left me on read. We were talking about something goofy and maybe I said something stupid(she asked me what my soul animal is And I had no idea what to say...) Or maybe this is a kind of **** test or mind game but I have no idea how to handle it. It has been a week since she left me on read. The day after, she put up a story on Instagram. After that, she put one again. But I just saw and didn't reply. What should I do?

 

[oldmanofthesea]

My rules:
1. Never initiate text with a girl unless you are in a position where you can see her (IE if you are not in the same geographic location, don't text her until you are back)
2. Never text a girl "for some time". The whole point of texting is to get her out on a date F2F
3. Never double text
4. Stop over-thinking and over-analyzing. If you follow the above three steps, you won't have to worry about #4. It's really that simple.

Also stop looking at her stories if she's left you on read. She gets zero validation from you if she leaves you on read, and since she can see who is watching her stories, that is validation. It also tells her something about you: That you are thirsty. A person's normal response to disinterest should be disinterest. Leave me on read, I'm not going to sit there watching your stories - why would I take the time to do that? It communicates low value when you continue to devote any of your time and attention.

 

[spikeanut]

My rules:
1. Never initiate text with a girl unless you are in a position where you can see her (IE if you are not in the same geographic location, don't text her until you are back)
2. Never text a girl "for some time". The whole point of texting is to get her out on a date F2F
3. Never double text
4. Stop over-thinking and over-analyzing. If you follow the above three steps, you won't have to worry about #4. It's really that simple.

Also stop looking at her stories if she's left you on read. She gets zero validation from you if she leaves you on read, and since she can see who is watching her stories, that is validation. It also tells her something about you: That you are thirsty. A person's normal response to disinterest should be disinterest. Leave me on read, I'm not going to sit there watching your stories - why would I take the time to do that? It communicates low value when you continue to devote any of your time and attention.

OP, adhere to these rules above, they are golden. Remember, you are a man, not a childish clown for her amusement. Goofiness over text does not get you laid nor does it raise her interest if you've never met her. The reason to limit yourself via text is two fold: 1. shows you are busy doing your own Sh1t, as a man should, and 2. Inflection is lost over text.

In person communication isn't strictly based on the words coming out of your mouth, but also on your body language, mannerism, physical interaction, and stature. In person, your words may appear charming, suave, or downright arousing...whereas those same words appear "goofy, silly, non-masculine" via text. This is why the general consensus in the manosphere is to use text for the sole purpose of getting face to face. It is extremely difficult to raise a woman's interest over text; especially if you have not slept with her, or yet to meet in person.

Another added note to text game: limit your emojis, lol's, winky eyes, smiley faces, and other silly, goofy habits. You're a man, act like one, even if it is over text.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Don't try to have fun over text or enter any sort of nuance, the above posts are spot on. The second you allow her to become comfortable with texting you, the games are going to begin.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Left on read is usually an indicator of low interest or she's so busy texting chad she's forgotten about you

she's not special forget about her, 4 billion other women out there try another one

 

[Depressedguy]

Hello and thank you for replying.
As everyone has pointed out, I have been following all the rules almost every time I text a girl and I was texting her as well to make plans and get her out on a date but I had to leave town for some work so it didn't happen.
But, I'm glad I took your advice and didn't text back because she texted me saying she saw the text and forgot. What should I do from here? I don't want to sound too nice.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Ask her out. Specify a date in the future for when you'll be back in town.

Your main goal is to force a woman to make a decision and put her cards face-up on the table so that you don't waste any of your time on uninterested women. It's that simple and Doc Love was the first one to come up with it. Women are all talk. Action is their weak spot. You can't bullsh*t action. So you simply ask her out for a specific date when you will be back in town, "Hey, texting is great and all but we should continue this conversation over a drink. Let's do Monday, 8pm at __________." Note how I phrased that in a way that assumes she is going to say yes. Anything other than a "yes" or a counter-offer for a different venue, or a different day and time is a hard NO from her. This includes her saying, "I have plans Monday" (no counter-offer) - and you do NOT respond to that by asking her for a day that does work... she's not a moron, she knows full-well if she wants to see you she can't just say Monday doesn't work, she has to say when WOULD work. This also includes her saying "maybe" or "I'll get back with you". ANY response from her that isn't a yes or a counter-offer means you never initiate text with her again and if she initiates with you, you reply once, maybe twice at most, with short but friendly one sentence replies and then you say, "Well hey, I'm walking in the door to a friend's house so I have to let you go but good hearing from you! Keep in touch" and that's it. In order for her to get a date with you at this point, SHE needs to ask YOU out.

It really is that simple.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Girls are much more into texting than I am. My previous GF complained that I was a ‘dry texter’ ‍