"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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how to meet her?

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well i know this pretty hot girl, but the problem is that i dont know her in person. shes a friend of my friends and one time we talked on the internet, i got her phone number, and called her a couple of times, and tried to keep the aol talking to the minimuim, and about everytime we have hit it pretty well. (maybe about 3 or 4 times).

anyways ive seen a picture of her and shes so hot. one time i called her to ask her out but she was out of town and it was true... then another time i was talking to her but i was about to leave to a party and just for the hell of it i asked her if she wanted me to pick her up, and she said no.... so damn.

does anyone think of any other way thats more reliable than straight up just asking her out, considering she doesnt know me in person?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hey, you seem like a pretty sorted out girl, can we meet up.

Something along the lines of you have a great personality but i have never met u (dont mention the photo), can I.
 

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is kinda hard to not mention the pic, since she gave it to me. i told her shes good looking but besides that one time i havent brought her looks into a conversation again.

but i mean "hey youre a cool girl lets go out" line is the line that is almost always used.

ive asked her out 2 times. one she was out of town and the other one it was right in the moment.... the 3rd time i ask her out i want to be sure shell say yes.
 

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no0, the point is is that you want to meet up with her because of your talks with her, you think that there is interest there, it is not because you are looking to score with a hot chick. Your approach should be to get to know each otehr better and then play it that way on the date (get to know each otehr very intimately).

Omoyar, the bible places too much importance on the word NEXT, it isvery useful adn very important tool but be careful, he does not have to blow her away, albeit she has shown less interest as she has not rescheduled but she has only met him over the internet.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by omyomar

But like I said before if you've asked her out before and she's said no......NEXT!
one time she was out of town, and the other time i asked her if she wanted me to pick her up as i was about to leave to a party. im probably going to ask her out this next weekend, im just going to make sure shes not out of town, and im going to ask her like 1 or 2 days before....
 

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How about next time you talk to her tell her you want to meet her in person and ask her what her schedule is. Once she tells you set up a time that she said she is open....
 

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ummm, ask her out again...just do it a couple days in advance.
 
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