"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How to make yourself approach?

Mike24ct

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In the book "Awaken the Giant Within", Tony Robbins talks about a concept called leverage, where you link so much pain to not changing, that you are basically forced to change.

This is useful in pickup. When out with a wing, I have used the "money game" to help force me to approach. That's where you give your wing a certain amount of money and you don't get it back until you complete your approaches. It works awesome.

However, most times, I don't have a wing with me and end up sarging alone. Is there any way to get leverage on yourself to force yourself to approach?

Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

~~Mike
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Consider changing your purpose or goal of approaching. Change it to something less intimidating.
 

Shiftkey

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Instead of trying to trick yourself, make yourself desensitized. Go somewhere an hour away where you'll never run into the same people again, and approach 20 women a day, 3 or 4 days a week, for a month. Your goal is to fail - say rediculous sh1t that you know won't work.
 

blinkwatt

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Espi said:
No secrets to getting me in approach mode.

*I think life is short, and I don't want to miss an opportunity.

*I think of girls past who I was too ashamed or nervous to approach; I tell myself that was the old me.
Solid info,that's how I "brought down" approaching women. I also do it because I LOVE the adreline rush.
 
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