How to make that jump to leadership.

[rkc09]

I hang out with a group of friends. 6 girls and 5 boys to be exact so there's 11 of us. This is kinda of off topic but I think some true alpha males can answer this. I'm real close to them. I've been trying to make the jump to the role of the leader. I ask this because I always found myself being the quiet go with the flow guy of our group. But I set a mindset for this year. I want to be the leader. The leader is the most respected of the group and I'm tried of being the average rank of the group. I need to take the next step. There's this only guy who's competiton.

He's always barking out orders but not in a pushy way more like a captain trying to lead troops. When I lead it's usually through action not words. But I have a feeling that he might be threat to that role of leadership but I might aswell say that the role of leadership is vacant at the moment since the old leader went to an out of city college. But when he comes back there's gonna be a new leader.

Now don't get me wrong I love the guy like a brother but I've been told my whole life and by this website to always be A LEADER. He seems like he's trying to lead us but I know that I'm not destined to be a follower and I know that a real DJ's aren't followers. I know I'm not a DJ yet but I've been at this stuff for a year and I'm closer everyday to the goal but this is a area that I feel that needs to be changed. I know how to attract girls and etc. But I've never neccessary been told how to be a leader of a group(s) in good detail. So fellow DJ's young and old I need your help. Whats the proper steps to becoming a leader or better yet, how do I become a leader of a group?

 

[jeffthechef]

Being the "Leader" is not always the best. In some situations, it's better to be the follower. BUT ANYWAYS...
what grade are you in..this situation reminds me of my kinder through 4th grade years..same exact thing..if you're in high school...it sounds like your group is pretty weird...your friend gives orders?...can you be more specific..

 

[Five To One]

You say the alpha male is gone for a while? Then yea it is totally possible to take charge, even it its only for a little bit you will still get some experience as an apha male; it will be up to you to stay the apha male when he comes back.

You see the problem is that once a group of friends finds a solid alpha male, its very hard to knock him from that position; not only is he not going to let you do it but the others in the group will also be saying "wtf are you trying to do rkc09" Most of the time when people ask this question I tell them they have to start over and make their own social circle, and from the beginning be the apha male that holds everyone togther.

But I have faith you can pull this off. Be the guy to call everyone up and have a chilled night. Thats really what the apha male does, he gets everyone together and tells everyone what they doing. You dont have to plan out the whole night though, be willing to adjust plans. Just make the calls and let people know to be at so and so's house by 6 or something. If whatever your doing gets boring then be the first to suggest something, and make it a good idea. Remember your not the apha male yet so they arnt going to agree with everything you say right away, you have to be having good ideas.

Do that and also be the center of the group, having a good time, displaying high confidence and value, ect.

 

[rkc09]

Thanks man for having faith me man. That helped out. So I just basically get everyone together, throw out good ideas, , and always be in a good mood so it can hold your friends together. I got it, thanks man. But what do you mean by "center of the group"?


And as for jeffthechef. When I mean barking out orders I mean him saying stuff like "hey were going to krogers", "lets run to the movies" etc. Just stuff like that. The way he says it is like he's trying to be alpha of the group thats all.

btw, if anyone has anymore advice feel free to post some.

 

[jeffthechef]

I see. Hm. While you try to become the Alpha. it's actually somewhat easy to get the girl..my friend always does the planning..and i show up and get the girl...but usually they're his type =/
while the alpha is busy...pull a girl out and work it..

But alphas usually get more
good luck:woo: :rock: :cheer: :crackup: :wave: :yes: