"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to make our place "sex-friendly" ... need some tips!

muscleman

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After bringing back a couple girls last night (which didn't go anywhere, but that's beside the point) my wing and I realized we need to work through some logistics of setting up our place in a way that's entertaining, sexual, and strategic for isolation/etc. I live in a 3 level condo (my area is top floor, he rents the lower level, and the main level is shared). I have no problem doing what I need to do once I get a girl over here myself - I just pop in a movie, get her a drink, and kino my way to her naked body, but it's way different when there are other people involved.

Case in point last night: these two girls we met earlier got a hold of us and ended up coming back to our place at the end of the night. Our place is still a little messy cause he just moved in, but we're working on it. We had a couple problems off the bat:

1) It took forever to get music playing. We probably need to set up a laptop with Pandora/speakers ready to go so it doesn't take so long and we're not fumbling around.
2) We ended up putting in a movie and were all sitting on one couch. There's enough room, but I think it makes the situation a little crowded; we need a way to isolate.
3) The ASD is really high because they're both there and isolation short of "you go to his bedroom and you come to my bedroom" is somewhat of a challenge.
4) Needless to say we need to be more aggressive and get down to business, but our place could definitely use some upgrades to make it more sexy.

Anyone got any ideas? How do you set up your bachelor pad?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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WaterTiger

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All the GUY STUFF :neon beer signs, cheerleader posters, video games, ect., need to be in the MAIN room. This establishes it as a MANLY RESIDENCE.

If she wants to listen to music, see a movie or view your etchings, then she has to go to your room. All the stereo/DVD/TV equipment needs to be there. Once in your room, you can sit on the bed to watch the movie or listen to music. Once she's sitting on the bed, encourage her to get comfortable & continue your game.

Tips for your room:
1 -CLEAN! Holy FVCK! Keep it CLEEEEEEEEAN! Fresh sheets! No stinky hamper!:down: No dirty sock in the corner!:nono: No pizza boxes stacked by the nightstand! No porn magazines on the shelf!:mad: Use some FeBreeze! Make the place smell nice!:flowers:

2 - Candles. Something about candle light makes people feel horny. Go with it!:up:

3 - Have snacks/wine in the fridge & ready to take up to your room. Food & wine can be the start of intersting:p kino games.

4 -Have a box of condoms ready to go!:cool:
 

muscleman

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Good stuff WaterTiger. I'll need to spend some time making my bedroom "the place to be". I mean it's big and all, but I don't even have a bed set right now, just a couple mattresses on the floor and a dresser from way back when. That said I've had no problems with my latest ONS watching a movie on the couch on main floor while I did my kino thing, but I agree I may need to move it to the bedroom especially now that I have a roommate. That means I'll need to buy another flatscreen/blu ray player, but I can do that and I already have a wall mount.

I do need to get some more candles, but I do have wine ready to go, same with condoms and febreeze. My bedroom is clean cause there's really nothing there.
 

horaholic

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This is one area where I will welcome a woman's opinion. I will add here, dollar store scented candles work great for your own house (not as gifts to women though!

If Watertiger, or any other woman here would like to add some ideas that would get a woman to go into a guys bedroom, that would be great. Picture books are a good thing to have in your room for an excuse. Chicks usually love that kind of thing. Maybe a nice piece of art hanging in your room that she 'just has to see.' Anything artistic you do, like an instrument, or art, or poetry, or whatever your interested in, you should have in your room. Its a DHV, and isolation with the same thing.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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zekko

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There are a lot of rants on here about not accepting a woman's advice on seduction, but I have to admit I thought Watertiger's post was impressive.
 
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