After reading a bit in this forum i do have more appreciation and sympathy for everything guys have to go through in life. However am even more puzzled about my situation. I have not had a boyfriend in a long time and really really need to start dating again, however i NEVER get approached by men in my daily life.
im 28 and would love to date people around my age or slightly older and with some level of maturity (my last two boyfriends were younger and while it had its plus side i definitely need a change of scenery).
I do live in a male environment and have mostly male friends, so I cannot go out with them to meet guys, I need to go out alone, but am nervous about going to a bar alone.
1. Be thin. If you are not then go to the gym.
2. Dress really really nicely. If you do not then buy nice clothes.
3. Be feminine, approachable, and nice. Smile a lot. Act natural.
Well I do all those things...I started to think i dress too nicely tbh (i am from eastern europe and am very conscious of not looking "slutty" but i do try to keep my looks proper and elegant). If someone would approach me i would smile the crap out of myself and be the most approachable person there is, however i cant smile at random ppl walking on the street for no reason. i can but it wouldnt seem natural.
Well I do all those things...I started to think i dress too nicely tbh (i am from eastern europe and am very conscious of not looking "slutty" but i do try to keep my looks proper and elegant). If someone would approach me i would smile the crap out of myself and be the most approachable person there is, however i cant smile at random ppl walking on the street for no reason. i can but it wouldnt seem natural.
First of all, don't use words like "crap", it's not ladylike.
Secondly, I LOVE women from Eastern Europe! You should have no problem attracting men. If you can't get a date send me a private message sweetheart, I can certainly take care of you
Edit: If you would like more help, perhaps you could post your picture and some of the older guys on here can give you tips on what you could improve with regards to your appearance
If you have all these male friends, then meeting men is obviously not your issue. Your issue is most likely unrealistic standards or a lack of willingness to "play the game" and just expecting everything to fall in your lap.
Darth is spot on. Be attractive and you will meet men. However, if you're waiting for Bradly Cooper, you'll be waiting a long time. Ain't gonna happen.
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Can you define "play the game" in a bit more detail ? thanx for your responses !
i am eager to play any game, change myself etc, however dont know in which direction. it is hard for me to judge my own attractiveness, since every woman considers herself attractive.
However i am definitely at normal weight.
P.S. I am NOT looking for a movie star, all the guys i have had relationships with have been good looking attractive but normal guys. It is not that i am approached only by men i find unattractive - i am not approached AT ALL by strangers.
If we see a woman at a bar alone, we usually think "one night stand."
One way to avoid that is to go earlier. If you want a relationship, don't go to the bar at 10pm on Saturday night or worse 1am Sunday morning lol. Try 5pm or 6pm during the week to meet a professional guy after work.
Can you define "play the game" in a bit more detail ? thanx for your responses !
i am eager to play any game, change myself etc, however dont know in which direction. it is hard for me to judge my own attractiveness, since every woman considers herself attractive.
However i am definitely at normal weight.
P.S. I am NOT looking for a movie star, all the guys i have had relationships with have been good looking attractive but normal guys. It is not that i am approached only by men i find unattractive - i am not approached AT ALL by strangers.
Get some hobbies. Preferably hobbies that men enjoy. Sports, cycling, rock climbing, the gym, etc.
Just get out of the house and do things. Men are everywhere on the hunt. Any woman who isn't an anti-social coach potato will meet men if she gets out. If you get involved in these activities and men still don't approach you.. then you are probably deformed in some way.. either over-weight, cross eyed or bad teeth, body odor.. or something.
This should help you out... rate yourself from 5 to 10 (anything below a 5 is invisible to most men)
Hey thanks for ur response. Actually i was thinking about approaching a guy,who is my type and i find very attractive, but am afraid of frightening him. plus maybe he is not single...
And will read the book; u cant have too many friends
Well I do all those things...I started to think i dress too nicely tbh (i am from eastern europe and am very conscious of not looking "slutty" but i do try to keep my looks proper and elegant). If someone would approach me i would smile the crap out of myself and be the most approachable person there is, however i cant smile at random ppl walking on the street for no reason. i can but it wouldnt seem natural.
Don't think anyone said anything about smiling at random people. Why not just smile and maintain eye contact with someone you'd like to have approach you? Most typical men have approach anxiety and would probably love some kind of indication that it's "safe" to approach. Otherwise what's going to make him approach you over the other 50 hot women he saw that day?
Agreed 100% with you posting pics. The guys here will be brutally honest. If you're attractive, beware of the men here who will try to pick you up. Some of them haven't graduated from the school of Sosuave yet
Men are driven by a woman's appearance. If you want to have men approach you, you need to bring out your best physical features.
It's likely that men are not approaching you due to one of two things:
1) You are not attractive enough. You need to bring out your best physical features by wearing clothing and makeup that shows those parts of your body off.
2) You are extremely attractive and men are intimidated by your looks.
The fact that you have a high number of male friends gives us the impression that you may in fact be attractive. A man will generally befriend a woman who is not interested in him, hoping that she eventually WILL be interested.
Again, pics would help. Front, side, and back profiles.
