I have been talking to this girl for a few weeks now and she seems to have a general instrest in me. We went out a few times and made out a bit, but at the same time I know she is talking to other guys as well. I try to play it cool and act like I don't care who she talks to, but I would like for her to want me and only me. Any suggestions to make her be more instrested in me than these other guys more would be great.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How To Make Her Want Only Me
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- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
naoi deag se deag
Senior Don Juan
You're desperate. Either stop caring, or make yourself cooler than anyone else she talks to.
Bang the hell out of someone she knows, that you know will get back to her, not someone she is good friends with, but someone you know she will hear about it from.
If you do a good job you are in, women our a DJ's best publicity.
All you need is a good rating from one girl, and you ar golden with her circle of friends
If you do a good job you are in, women our a DJ's best publicity.
All you need is a good rating from one girl, and you ar golden with her circle of friends
Start to date other girls besides her. Keep your options open! Realize that you are SINGLE and not in a relationship yet (although you may be ready for one), so you shouldn't feel bad about seeing other girls. This alone should help take your mind off of her. If not, get involved in other aspects of your life to keep yourself busy. This will make you a RARE item. And human nature dictates, "People ALWAYS want what they can't have."
Don't call her as much too. :woo:
Best of Luck
Don't call her as much too. :woo:
Best of Luck
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I see you have just registered, if I were you I would start by reading the DJ bible up at the top of the screen.
Don't try to read it all at once. Read a little, take a break...read some more. Make sure you're actually reading it too, and not skimming.
Don't try to read it all at once. Read a little, take a break...read some more. Make sure you're actually reading it too, and not skimming.
MercutioTHEGREAT
Don Juan
dude you can't make a girl want only you either she's interested in you or she isn't simple as dat...if ur talking about wanting more you have to tell her how you feel...
i would say something like/\hey i'm having feelings for you and i'm not seeing that for you plz tell me where me and you are going is this it or do you want more if not tell me so i can move on/\
dats what i'd say...every girl just wants your true feelings and you
if you do the "straight" approach like i did and she's like ummm umm umm yeah i like you....and then nothin really changes then she's really not feeling you
i would say something like/\hey i'm having feelings for you and i'm not seeing that for you plz tell me where me and you are going is this it or do you want more if not tell me so i can move on/\
dats what i'd say...every girl just wants your true feelings and you
if you do the "straight" approach like i did and she's like ummm umm umm yeah i like you....and then nothin really changes then she's really not feeling you
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
Don't do this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Please, don't do this!!!!!!!!! The second this happens, you're challenge-factor ( man, I really hate talking about things like this so technically) will dissappear. She'll know she has you and will probably stop showing any interest.
Become a rare commodity. Get scarce, but when you do see her, be sure to really turn on the heat, and make her crave when you are not around.
Go out and do things that make you complete, by yourself. A man with passion, and who lives his own life is in great demand.
If that doesn't work, then she just isn't that interested.
You gotta understand that no Don Juan can get every woman. They are all different and look for different things, in men. The second you try to be the "Everyman" you become the "no-man" Hell, even the best of us around here strike out every now and again.
MercutioTHEGREAT
Don Juan
^^ I feel you on that^^
his advice is better i admit seeing that she got wandering eyes you have to gain control over her and yeah if she's not into you then so be it. find another.
his advice is better i admit seeing that she got wandering eyes you have to gain control over her and yeah if she's not into you then so be it. find another.
I completely agree. I used to care if a girl wanted me when I was desperate / AFC. Now, no matter how great the girl is, I just don't care. Why don't i care ? b/c i've realized i dont need women to make me happy.
If you haven't gamed her well enough to want u at this point, your pretty much screwed my friend. Patterning when u first met her would have been your best friend.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
naoi deag se deag
Senior Don Juan
I don't think he's screwed. AFCs get the girl, and have always gotten the girl, through a long process. Think about the times you hooked up with a girl you had known for a long time... those three month sarges with some high points and a lot of low points that left you feeling great about yourself before you found this site. DJs just expedite the process by leaving out all the bad stuff
But cleats, man, you really have to condition yourself to not care what this girl does, as long as she doesn't disrespect you. It sounds to me like you're only slightly tangibly connected to her... scored her a few times and known her a few weeks. Think about all the people who have passed through your life in just a few weeks. Think about all the girls you've scored just once. You don't feel anything for them anymore, right? Teach yourself to be like a chick... a state-based creature who is attracted to this girl when she's around and doesn't think about her when she's not, BECAUSE he's too busy finding other things in his life that pump his state. When you do that, I think you'll have found your perfect emotional equilibrium. And you'll be rolling in pu-ssy.
Concert
I'm taking this girl to a 50 cent concert coming to town next week, is this a good idea or not? I want to set up some sort of after praty with me and her at a hotel or something so I san beat the P&%$y up. What do ypu think??
I'm taking this girl to a 50 cent concert coming to town next week, is this a good idea or not? I want to set up some sort of after praty with me and her at a hotel or something so I san beat the P&%$y up. What do ypu think??
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MixMaxster
Don Juan
see for me I see it as if you want a girl or are looking for a relationship, then don't focus on the girl as much as you should be focusing on getting into a relationship. Basically if she's showing more interest in other guys, then competely cut communication with her and look elsewhere for someone.
It's like this, think back to highschool when they had school dances. You could probably think of some girls that a lot of the guys there wanted to dance with, so if you had something on par with those other guys, you'll be lucky if you're picked to dance with her. So since all these guys are fighting for her attention, it's unnecessary as the focus should be on finding a girl to dance with. It wouldn't make sense to sit there fighting for her when her alone isn't what you're really looking for.
So why not move on to finding another girl? Or would you rather try the whole night to get a dance with her while all the other guys are getting them and you run out of time sitting at the side like a chump. That's exactly how I see getting into a relationship now, I'm not focused on one particular girl but more on which girl is going to get into a relationship with me.
It's like this, think back to highschool when they had school dances. You could probably think of some girls that a lot of the guys there wanted to dance with, so if you had something on par with those other guys, you'll be lucky if you're picked to dance with her. So since all these guys are fighting for her attention, it's unnecessary as the focus should be on finding a girl to dance with. It wouldn't make sense to sit there fighting for her when her alone isn't what you're really looking for.
So why not move on to finding another girl? Or would you rather try the whole night to get a dance with her while all the other guys are getting them and you run out of time sitting at the side like a chump. That's exactly how I see getting into a relationship now, I'm not focused on one particular girl but more on which girl is going to get into a relationship with me.