How to make her a better person?

[sph21]

Stop trying to fix a relationship. It's a female's job. The only person you need to change is yourself.

I also realized that if I could make them a better person, then:
-I would also improve in certain ways,
-this process will create a very strong rapport,
-the experience will be very useful later, when I'll have children

So how can I make my next girlfriend a better person?
Thanks in advance!

My advice based on the above quote:
1. Don't try to become a hero. If you're trying too much to become a hero, you'll end up becoming mr. nice guy.
2. Focus on the present. Stop worrying too much on the future.

 

[bigneil]

You get her to change by being the best guy she's been with. You get her to change by showing her what a Gentleman is, by being generous, by giving unconditionally, by making her feel beautiful, and by making her feel attraction. It usually won't work in real time so most are right when they say you can't change her. You will probably need to move on but she will remember you and compare every other guy to you for some time after, if not for the rest of her life. If you treated her right, it will raise her standards and she will encourage other men to treat her right.

In general, if you love people they will love you back in their own way, though probably not romantically. You must be detached from the outcome and indifferent, but also be someone who improves their life. You can't need them for anything but if you have enough other women, you won't.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You get her to change by being the best guy she's been with. You get her to change by showing her what a Gentleman is, by being generous, by giving unconditionally, by making her feel beautiful, and by making her feel attraction. It usually won't work in real time so most are right when they say you can't change her. You will probably need to move on but she will remember you and compare every other guy to you for some time after, if not for the rest of her life. If you treated her right, it will raise her standards and she will encourage other men to treat her right.

In general, if you love people they will love you back in their own way, though probably not romantically. You must be detached from the outcome and indifferent, but also be someone who improves their life. You can't need them for anything but if you have enough other women, you won't.

In a long term game like multiple years, they can change by being a guy like bigneil mentioned. Some of your ways will rub off on her. It takes a long time.

 

[bigneil]

Bigbetabucksneil pays strippers with all his money to like him. :crackup:

Are you still crying over the time the moderators were forced to send me a letter saying it really hurt your feelings when I called you a woman? Sorry to blow your cover, but the smiley faces give your gender away. You might be the first transsexual ninja though.

And God knows alphas don't go around calling other people beta.

 

[salinechow]

Look I find the question posed somewhat ludicrous. Three girls you know, and three more you heard of, are crazy??!! F$CKING OBVIOUSLY!

As everyone said date multiple women and have them compete for your affection. Next the nutters. Keep the inventory fresh. When you find a great one focus on her more. She'll be irrationally afraid of things and nit pick and have other issues to overcome too, but, like the scales of justice, if she is solid, her good will FAR outweigh her "battyness" and you could even be endeared to her quirks. Especially if you didnt settle, valued yourself enough, and waited for a very attractive one.

But, in the interest of bringing value to the forum, even when the posts are somewhat retarded, I will answer directly your question.

CBT.

Cognitive Behavior Therapy.

That is the answer you are looking for.

That is if you want to play fixer upper( at your own peril)

In short, it teaches people to correct there own behavior through self taught psychotherapy.

I have changed lives with these techniques, and have applied them to myself as well. However, be aware, this is not going to get you laid. This is dangerous friendzone sh!t. Also, it can backfire and make someone weirdly "need" you. And, at the same time, not want to f^ck you.

I have in fact used it as a tool in my "game" but it is certainly not a go to at all. With all its power and pitfalls, it has always proved double edged.

You are forewarned. It is however the straight answer to your question.