"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How to make friends after college?

hope7

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Well, I graduated from college and it seems most likely that I will be getting a job in the bay area. My main concern is making friends. In college, most of the friends I made were in the dorms. How do I meet people in the city?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Master Bates

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(obligatory responses): join clubs and talk to people at bars and the gym!
 

hope7

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Haha, I forgot clubs existed outside college. A community service type club sounds like something I would be into. As for talking to people in bars and gym. . .I know how to do that for girls, I have no idea how to go about doing that to make friends with guys.
 

hope7

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Those are some pretty good ideas.

Since my job is in the bay area, I might live in san fran, I heard alotta young people live there. Is there any apartments or general areas there where a lot of young people live? What about San jose?
 

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San fran eh? Maybe I'm profiling but something tells me you could prob make some guy "friends" pretty easily.. though they might look like this...:cheer:
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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