How to make a relationship last?

[Romjuan]

I was reading couple of my old posts and it seems like i struggle in keeping relationships lasting. I feel i am spontaneous, funny, outgoing, social, but it seems like i am missing something that makes the girls lose interest. my last relationship was one year, followed by a 3 month break up, then got back together for a year. the relationship before that was 6 months. before that another girl was 6 months. any strategies, advice on what others do?

 

[katatonia]

Remain a challenge and desirable to other women and you can probably keep a girl for as long as you like.

 

[Proselytiser]

Katatonia is right.

Let her know other girls are interested without being obvious about it
F*ck her well
****y/funny
Frame control
Be unpredictable

What I couldn't fit into the quote in my sig went something like "a woman should know in the back of her mind that a voluptuous rival might come along and poach you". That's what it all boils down to.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear RomJuan,
Know the feeling,but serial relationships are one hell of a lot better than serial marriages....I think what happens for most punters,is that eventually the pain of starting a new relationship exceeds the pain of accepting,diminished svxuality and being taken for granted by someone you rub along with,so you just settle down.

 

[boomerick]

R-juan
I treat my wife like a date number 3 girlfriend ie I maintain frame, lead always, throw sh!t tests back in her face (they never stop the testing, EVER!), don't be too availible, have other things in your life (friends, hobbies etc), tease her, and goof around enough in front of her with other chicks to let her know that I 'could' if I wanted. Simple as that. NEVER loose control of the frame. Also you have to rock solidly in your head KNOW that you're not going to put up with BS and that you WILL WALK with no hesitation if she misbehaves even if that means all of the anti-man crap that comes with a divorce. I didn't use to be like this, I went total textbook AFC for a while and that almost killed the marriage but since redefining and extensively reframing I've turned it around and made it better than it ever was. ALSO with this mindset even if it were to crash tomorrow I know that I have the ability to pick up and move on. As selfish as this may sound you have to have it firmly in your head that YOU are still the most important thing in your life.Over and Out

 

[squirrels]

How to make a relationship last?

First, become the person you want to be.

Then, find a girl who complements the life you are living, the life you WANT to live.

???

Profit.


How are these girls "breaking up with you"? I mean, what do they say to you? Obviously, if you're so committed to a "lasting relationship", it's them who are breaking it off with you. Do you mean to tell me you've been through three of these (four if you count the latest one twice) and you STILL don't have a clue why they're leaving?

Have you ever stopped to think that these particular girls just aren't compatible with you?

It's either that, or you're doing something that makes them either bored or uncomfortable...I would think back to when they "start losing interest" and see if you can't figure out what's changing with YOU that may be causing them to lose interest.

I mean, are you immersing yourself so much in the "relationship stuff" toward month 6 that you're losing track of some of the things boomerick was talking about? Losing your hobbies? Friends? It's not a "game" like everyone says it is...it's a way of life.

If it's not that, then I'd say let 'em walk. They're not right for you.

 

[Ease]

The advice you need is covered well in roissy's rules of poon.

 

[boomerick]

DJ Bible at the bottom of the page.......Read it!