"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Razor Sharp

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If you have a heated discussion going on with a fellow poster, the best way to make your point is

> No personal attacks
Attack the message, not the messenger or you will just disqualify yourself
You shouldn't get off on making people look foolish anyway. That's not gentlemanly.

> No long diatribes
Brevity is the soul of wit. No one cares how big you can write your paragraphs.
In fact we HATE big paragraphs - stop that!

> No dissection of posts
Nobody is interested in how many times you can quote and tear apart a post.
It just looks like a big gay "I know you are but what am I?" drama-fest,
which steers the thread into personal territory instead of focusing on the issues.

> No hurt feelings.
Take your hits in stride. If a silly post on the net gets your feathers ruffled
I don't even want to think how you handle the women who are supposedly in your life!

> Yes, walk a mile in their shoes.
Try to understand where your opponent is coming from.
It's easier to take apart ideas that you can grasp at a fundamental level.

> Yes, use effective communication
Present your arguments in a concise, logical manner with at least half-decent grammar.
Space your ideas out and make them tie together cohesively.

> Yes, agree to disagree
Sincerely wish the best for someone you feel is lost. Even if you think that person
is pathetic or a joke, that's no excuse to treat them like trash. We were all clueless once.

> Yes, have a sense of humor
It keeps the mind sharp and is a great tool in may situations.
Certainly wins more people over than sporting a perpetual knot in one's knickers.

> Yes, take a stand against trolls
Report offensive posts. They are the most effective way to get mods to listen on any forum.
Do not feed the troll. The best way to get under their skin is to ignore them - they HATE that

And now, a public service message - sponsored by RazorBalls cereal, part of a balanced breakfast

Next time you feel the need to insult or bring someone down, try switching gears and see if you can help that person with your perspective, instead of clubbing them over the head with it. That way it would have a chance of sinking in or making a difference, other than asserting what a big d*ck you are.

We are all here to help each other out and maybe learn something too. Have enough confidence to be humble, then you can actually contribute something valuable to a discussion. Who knows, maybe you'll even change a few minds while you're at it.

Me? I never lose an argument. I am blessed with the uncanny ability to not take anything personal, and that gives me an unfair advantage ;)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ease

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Good idea, but it wont be followed.

I also pride myself with never losing arguments, but i am too sly and underhanded for such noble rules.
 
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