"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Razor Sharp

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If you have a heated discussion going on with a fellow poster, the best way to make your point is

> No personal attacks
Attack the message, not the messenger or you will just disqualify yourself
You shouldn't get off on making people look foolish anyway. That's not gentlemanly.

> No long diatribes
Brevity is the soul of wit. No one cares how big you can write your paragraphs.
In fact we HATE big paragraphs - stop that!

> No dissection of posts
Nobody is interested in how many times you can quote and tear apart a post.
It just looks like a big gay "I know you are but what am I?" drama-fest,
which steers the thread into personal territory instead of focusing on the issues.

> No hurt feelings.
Take your hits in stride. If a silly post on the net gets your feathers ruffled
I don't even want to think how you handle the women who are supposedly in your life!

> Yes, walk a mile in their shoes.
Try to understand where your opponent is coming from.
It's easier to take apart ideas that you can grasp at a fundamental level.

> Yes, use effective communication
Present your arguments in a concise, logical manner with at least half-decent grammar.
Space your ideas out and make them tie together cohesively.

> Yes, agree to disagree
Sincerely wish the best for someone you feel is lost. Even if you think that person
is pathetic or a joke, that's no excuse to treat them like trash. We were all clueless once.

> Yes, have a sense of humor
It keeps the mind sharp and is a great tool in may situations.
Certainly wins more people over than sporting a perpetual knot in one's knickers.

> Yes, take a stand against trolls
Report offensive posts. They are the most effective way to get mods to listen on any forum.
Do not feed the troll. The best way to get under their skin is to ignore them - they HATE that

And now, a public service message - sponsored by RazorBalls cereal, part of a balanced breakfast

Next time you feel the need to insult or bring someone down, try switching gears and see if you can help that person with your perspective, instead of clubbing them over the head with it. That way it would have a chance of sinking in or making a difference, other than asserting what a big d*ck you are.

We are all here to help each other out and maybe learn something too. Have enough confidence to be humble, then you can actually contribute something valuable to a discussion. Who knows, maybe you'll even change a few minds while you're at it.

Me? I never lose an argument. I am blessed with the uncanny ability to not take anything personal, and that gives me an unfair advantage ;)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ease

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Good idea, but it wont be followed.

I also pride myself with never losing arguments, but i am too sly and underhanded for such noble rules.
 
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