"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How to make a point...

Razor Sharp

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If you have a heated discussion going on with a fellow poster, the best way to make your point is

> No personal attacks
Attack the message, not the messenger or you will just disqualify yourself
You shouldn't get off on making people look foolish anyway. That's not gentlemanly.

> No long diatribes
Brevity is the soul of wit. No one cares how big you can write your paragraphs.
In fact we HATE big paragraphs - stop that!

> No dissection of posts
Nobody is interested in how many times you can quote and tear apart a post.
It just looks like a big gay "I know you are but what am I?" drama-fest,
which steers the thread into personal territory instead of focusing on the issues.

> No hurt feelings.
Take your hits in stride. If a silly post on the net gets your feathers ruffled
I don't even want to think how you handle the women who are supposedly in your life!

> Yes, walk a mile in their shoes.
Try to understand where your opponent is coming from.
It's easier to take apart ideas that you can grasp at a fundamental level.

> Yes, use effective communication
Present your arguments in a concise, logical manner with at least half-decent grammar.
Space your ideas out and make them tie together cohesively.

> Yes, agree to disagree
Sincerely wish the best for someone you feel is lost. Even if you think that person
is pathetic or a joke, that's no excuse to treat them like trash. We were all clueless once.

> Yes, have a sense of humor
It keeps the mind sharp and is a great tool in may situations.
Certainly wins more people over than sporting a perpetual knot in one's knickers.

> Yes, take a stand against trolls
Report offensive posts. They are the most effective way to get mods to listen on any forum.
Do not feed the troll. The best way to get under their skin is to ignore them - they HATE that

And now, a public service message - sponsored by RazorBalls cereal, part of a balanced breakfast

Next time you feel the need to insult or bring someone down, try switching gears and see if you can help that person with your perspective, instead of clubbing them over the head with it. That way it would have a chance of sinking in or making a difference, other than asserting what a big d*ck you are.

We are all here to help each other out and maybe learn something too. Have enough confidence to be humble, then you can actually contribute something valuable to a discussion. Who knows, maybe you'll even change a few minds while you're at it.

Me? I never lose an argument. I am blessed with the uncanny ability to not take anything personal, and that gives me an unfair advantage ;)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ease

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Good idea, but it wont be followed.

I also pride myself with never losing arguments, but i am too sly and underhanded for such noble rules.
 
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