How to make a GF "needy for me"

[Plain & Simple]

Whats the best way of making ur girlfriend needy towards you? i guess what im asking is how can i make her interest level rise to the sky like before we were bf and gf.

The way she acts she acts as if she doesnt care about the RL, as a matterfact a few times ive pretended to break up with her and she never ever fights or says anytihng to get me not to break up with her, its like she could care less wether she is with me or not.

How can i make her feel like she has to call me or hear my voice so she can feel good, u know how most needy girls with bf's call their man 24/7 , and want to be with him and spend all of their free time with them, well my gf really seems like she doesnt care, we dont even have that much sex no more, im lucky if i get it once a week.

Im looking for some good advice for getting her IL skyrocketing again after 8 months of being together

 

[ghostin]

Thats really difficult. The only real way i can think of is to break up with her for good. Or at least get distant from her and stop calling or talkin to her.

You need to show her what life is like without you, her IL is dropping fast, sounds like she will be ending it sooner or later, so its always better if you are the one to do it.

 

[jprjrjr]

She's the one with the power in the relationship right now. She's acting indifferent, and you're wondering how to raise her interest level.

To be quite honest, it doesn't sound like you have much of a relationship left. I agree with the previous poster that YOU should end the relationship first.

Let her sit and stew with that. She wants to act like she doens't care, then give her the same treatment. NEVER reward bullshyt behavior.

 

[Plain & Simple]

dont get me wrong now yall, i think that that is the way she is, the type that "doesnt need nobody" "the famous independent woman" thats how she has been even since before we started going out , ofcourse her IL was higher back then but i guess what im trynna say is how do i change that, it has been like this for 8 months so its not like there has been a dramatic change, but its like she takes me for granted.

Last night we was on the phone talking and i told her how there is a few people that is not talking to me, she said that i shouldnt care about that, so i asked her if she could be like 2-3 days straight without talking to noone at all, and she said yeah, cause she dont need noone to talk to her other than god (shes very religious)

so thats the situation.

 

[frivolousz21]

if you want to avoid this...

have 2 people mutually fall in love.

and make sure she always repsects ur man character.

and her IL will never drop

 

[ghostin]

Originally posted by Plain & Simple
..... she dont need noone to talk to her other than god (shes very religious)

 

[Plain & Simple]

^^^sounds like bs huh? ok another example, yesterday i called her and i told her if she wanted to go out for the night, she said that her friend had called her before me and she made plans to go out with her, so i was kinda like dang...although she barely has friends, and less go out with them, shes a houselady.
She did ask me if i wanted her to call her and cancel the date but i said naw go ahead since she barely goes out with her friend. she told me that we could go out tonight now continue reading the next paragraph.

Anotha one.
Today, i called her in the moorning to tell her goodmorning and she said that she was in the breakroom sleeping so she said that shell talk to me later, so tonight she i missed her call so i called back, we talk for like 3 minutes and she sounded sleepy so i ask her if she was sleeping she said yeah, so i said ok go back to sleep, she said that she would call me back when she is fully awake, that was around 7:30om its now 11:45 pm she still hasnt called back.
Remember she said that we was gonna go out tonight and look at her going to sleep totally forgat about calling back or going out.

 

[lebRambo]

^^^^

absolute WORST thing a woman can do, in my opinion, is be flaky. I've broken off relationships cause the girl was too flaky. Its just my pet hate. If someone tells me that they will call me at such and such a time, then I f*cking expect that they will do so, and get shi!ted right off when they don't. sounds like your the same as me.

 

[Ouzo]

My opinion - shes not good enough for you.

Next her ass. Break it off before SHE DOES and you get all emotional.

Tell her its off, it was fun but you've found someone else.

Let us know what happens.

 

[Plain & Simple]

ima let her know though, i wanna be fair, ima have a 5 minute chat face to face with her and let her know straight up, then if the behavior continues then ill have to make a decision.

But see its been like that from the get go, so i knew what i was getting into, i just thought that she would change, and although she doesnt do things like this all the time, its kinda fuked up when she does do it.

but when i do it i aint gotta problem

 

[HereToImprove]

Its hard to do this past the six month stage (if you did not lay the groundwork earlier), and hard to do it in the first week or two (with anyone decent).

Between those lines though, its like a bungee cord. Let out the physical intimacy (i.e. sex), then pull back emotionally. Girl X will then demand it of herself to know you better to validate her sleeping with you, so let out a little emotionally, while at the same time backing out physical intimacy a little (a trip with a couple phone calls mixed in is a good way to pull this off). She will then feel close to you, but want to jump your bones badly, but you are not there, which builds suspense.

When you return, you should have her where you want her. Repeat this cycle, always keeping a little distance in one of these two areas. Therefore, she is always having to work a little to know you better or to get you in the sack.

The ship may have sailed on this one you speak of, but try this approach on your next girl that is starting to progress into date 3 or 4 and beyond. This pattern has literally gotten any girl from date 3+ into a LTR that I have ever tried it on. It actually breeds some creepy stalker-type obsessions too, so be careful! Make sure you could see yourself with her for awhile if you do this, or it can sometimes get messy.

Now, if I could only approach!

 

[Trance]

Best advice you'll ever get on getting women burning in interest for you:

Advice for this girl or any other:


Be a sexual being when you are kissing her, go further and further, tease a girl, make her hot, make her burning desire, make her love having sex with you.

And when you're not doing it, or not with her, dont TALK ABOUT IT EVER!! When you are in a non-sexual state, you talk about everything, go out, have a nice time, etc.
But there's always that time in that day that you'll surprise her and get into a sexual state and have her right that moment. That just gets any women crazy inlove with you.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

No offense but isn't it 'needy' to want a woman to be needy for you?